How to get girls off the pedistal even though I want a LTR...?

Lefeudufou · 2015-07-10T15:09:56+00:00

Is it normal to have that extra interest in a girl you pickup?

It depends, everyone is interesting and boring in their own way. If you're in the game, it makes sense that you're going to meet girls that will attract you more than others.

As /u/eazyThoughts commented it's best to get sex out of the way and to focus on her as a person. If you feel that you're into her just because she is hot, you probably are... spend some more time together, with the right mindset and experience you will be able to see past it.

cmiovino · 2015-07-10T13:26:14+00:00

It's ok to be looking for an LTR.

When you meet girls, approach, all that.. go into it with the frame of "Who is this person and will they bring value to my life?"

On first dates, same thing "I want to know more, would she be a good fit for me?"

It sounds selfish, but it isn't. If you frame it like you are, or like most guys, you're going into interactions and dates saying "How can I get her to like me! I want a relationship.. how can I make her my girlfriend?"

2015-07-10T13:41:29+00:00

Even with experience... you can still get attached to a girl... this is supposed to happen. Infatuation, love, it's all basic human stuff. Life is boring without it.

Not putting her on a pedestal, and taking your time with each other do no inherently conflict. In any way. Have your own life, appreciate her being in it.

DotishGuy · 2015-07-10T13:52:33+00:00

Put yourself on the pedestal instead.

2015-07-10T14:09:59+00:00

LTR's should be a byproduct, not the goal of picking up girls. A girl has to demonstrate value to your life and a desire to be with you, before you enter a LTR, not the other way around.

I have been a 'lonewolf' for quite some time and i manage fine.

Also, entering a LTR after a dry spell is never a good idea. You should get around some, smash a handful of girls, and you'll have a better idea of what you want in a women. A LTR right after a dry spell is a recipe for disaster. Get to the point where you have a few girls you're seeing non-exclusively, and then see which one show the most investment/commitment to you, and how compatible you are with them. Even better if they're the one that ask you to be in an exclusive relationship, show's that they genuinly like you.

What is the best way to get girls off the pedistal?

Abundance mentality. There are billions of girls on this earth, no reason to put some bitch you meet at a club on a pedestal, when there's hundreds just like her within a mile radius.

Title	How to get girls off the pedistal even though I want a LTR...?
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Date	July 10, 2015 11:59 AM UTC (11 years ago)
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