Asking a girl out and handling rejection when you have to see her again

tramplemestilsken · 2015-07-15T02:52:02+00:00

Mindset - she is ONE of the girls you asked out this week, you're not terribly concerned if she says yes or no, but it is your duty as a man to show desire. You did your job, she was not interested, you move on and it doesn't bother you one bit.

lilhurt38 · 2015-07-16T03:54:11+00:00

The best way to deal with rejection is to be unphased by it. You asked a girl out, she rejected you. Oh well, she's just one girl and you're onto the next. I've gone in for a kiss and been rejected. I didn't make a big deal out of it and we kept talking as if nothing happened. A minute later she pulled me in and started making out with me.

2015-07-15T01:57:23+00:00

Yesterday, there was a post about how meeting women some events or activities is particularly 10 times more fruitful than approaching random girl. I agree with poster because it provides some context and purpose to talk to women.

I mean me wanting her is plenty enough reason to talk to her. In fact it's by far the best one in my mind. What makes it fruitful or not is how attractive a man you are and how tight your game is. So meet women anywhere. Random cold approach, in a social group of yours, day, night. Whatever.

What if you have to see her again? Dance with her again? What if , she tells other members of dance class or club ?

Then you see her again. Then you just dance with her again. Then she told them.

There is definitely some damage to your social image and people's perception.

no

Please give some practical advise than just don't worry about it.

Don't worry about it.

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To prevent this from happening, make sure you have an actual spark, some sexual tension before you close. Don't over analyze them, but be aware of IOIs and be aware of the overall vibe of the interaction. If there is a spark of sexual tension there, then ask for her number. If there isn't, then don't.

shitsngiggles22 · 2015-07-15T03:19:09+00:00

I disagree that meeting women at activities is more fruitful. Might be true for whoever made that post, but definitely not for me.

As for your questions, when you see her again and you have to interact, just be chill about it. Make courteous small talk. Don't worry what she tells other people. Women aren't out to screw over guys they reject. If she's doing this activity with her really close friends that might happen, because that is who people tend to share these kinds of things with, but I'd say the overwhelming probability is that she is not, and won't talk about it.

Even if she does, so what? it's not like she'll be like "ywit88 asked me out last week, what a creep." It seems to me like you are projecting your feeling of shame about your sexuality onto her. You should be proud of your sexuality, not ashamed. Unless you were a total creep about it, asking someone out does not make one creepy and I cannot fathom anyone thinking that. There is definitely no damage whatsoever to asking someone out.

If another woman sees you do it, the only way I could see it backfiring is if she believes that you think the rejector is more attractive than the onlooker. But other than that, why would a woman seeing a man pursuing another woman possibly be bad? If anything it shows you have balls. If you get rejected, ask the next hottest girl out, repeat.

Lastly, I tried to give practical advice because that's specifically what you asked for. But far more importantly, DON'T WORRY ABOUT IT. It seems like you are far too concerned with what other people think. Stop that. Stop imagining negative consequences of approaching to be your excuse for not approaching. Whatever you think the worst case scenario is, I guarantee it isn't. Remember your primary objective of this activity isn't even to dance or cook or whatever, it's to get laid, so go out there and get laid.

And one very last thing. Say everything i just said is wrong, and asking a girl out makes you a total pariah against all odds. There is a simple solution: stop going. Find another activity.

Title	Asking a girl out and handling rejection when you have to see her again
Author	ywit88
Upvotes	1
Comments	4
Date	July 15, 2015 1:42 AM UTC (11 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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