This is my cold approach number 550 in my 1000 approach challenge.

 

I have been doing daygame a lot where I dont use a single routine.

 

At some point I have realized that I haven't been using any routines in a longtime in night time as well, and I am adapting my daygame habits into night game , so I am only using only couple of witty lines once in a while. Like oldschool ones -"Self note do not date this girl."-

 

Last couple of months my confidence is peaked even though I was emotionally miserable because of my ex. But I have been trying to move on, it is in my genes I dont wanna stuck in past while there are millions of hot chick who is as good as her if not better, out there. Best solution is letting it go and letting time to heal it, for starters being honest with myself, what did I do wrong, not because I am stuck in past but when next time I am in a similar situation not to repeat myself, seeing my ex's flaws and insecurities during this time helped too.

 

I am trying to move on with really strict rules/borders though, for example I dont approach girls that I find mildly attractive anymore, actually let me correct this I dont hit on girls I find mildly attractive anymore. I do warmup with them to get into more talkative state but I dont really hit on them , I just chat them about couple of minutes, like stretching in the gym.

 

Also I dont waste my time with girls seems not interested, seems moody, seems shallow, seems we dont have much in common, religious, seems just flirting with me because they like flirting as a hobby (girls with boyfriends do this a lot)

 

So even if she is hot I am not looking for momentarily happy hook ups but quality people in my life, whatever it is friend, gf, f-buddy etc.. Basically I came to a point that I dont really care and I dont ask for phone numbers anymore, not that I am looking for one night stands but I feel like during night game I can push as further as I can.

 

During the day it is same strategy I can get phone numbers easily and most of the times it doesnt lead to anything I call this n-close rejections, so I mostly try instant dates rather then n-closes.

 

Anyways, back to the Friday night, I opened two set with one tall blonde in it, I openly said that I like tall blonde girls and I came to here to say hi, is there anything interesting going on in your life lately?, after few assumptions about them and a superficial conversation, I realized I am not diving deep enough she is not talking about her passions and so there is no connection in between us. Soon they say "they need go to the bathroom." Well, it was good to meting you guys, I am onto the next one.

 

While I am talking to other girls, I see they are back and they are checking me out, I go back there and told them I knew you guys will be looking for me, she shit tests me and said something like "you dont even remember my name", I told her "thats true but I am sure you dont remember my name as well" , then I told her lets start over.

 

2-3 mins into conversation I put my hand on her waist on pulled her closer to myself, I started to ask questions about her personality so she can qualify herself, then after a long conversation I told her I know she wants to kiss me, even though she said no, I HELD the eye contact with a little bit smile on my face then pulled her closer to myself and kissed her, then lead her second floor of the bar, more make out, after 10-15 mins I told her we can go to my apt building and hang out little bit more.

 

We got a cab, in the cab she told me "she is not sleeping with me tonight" , I said sure I dont do that either, we gonna grab a drink at my buildings garden then she can go home.

 

Outside in the garden I tried to connect with her as much as possible , even though I was drunk, I tried to manage holding my frame, being %100 honest with her questions, asking her about her sex life, then when I finally start fingerbaning her in the garden , and then took her to my apt and slept with her.

 

Next couple of days I started reading Mark Manson's "Models" book, and I couldnt leave the book and in couple of hours I read thru almost half of it.

 

And it made me happy that by trial and error how I became a confident guy, who is dressing well , telling the truth, trying to connect with girls in deep levels, eliminating girls who are not worthy, just because she has nice ass I dont take their bs anymore and most importantly , how I am fine with rejection and I am my own source of happiness.