What advice can you give a 26 year old virgin

Morokweng · 2015-08-21T00:32:15+00:00

I used to have shitty social skills, and I highly recommend reading How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie. A lot of the advice in that book is also echoed in this talk which is worth watching.

Also read the Definitive Book of Body Language by Alan and Barbera Pease. Something like 70% of communication is non-verbal, if you improve your ability to read body language you will vastly improve your social awareness.

One of the main components of charisma is presence and the ability to actively listen. Practising presence and meditation in general can help to exercise that muscle. I found Eckhart Tolle useful for that, though he can be a bit... out there.

If you're shy and timid you should consider reading this, its written by a psychologist, it might help you identify some of your issues. But generally you just have to work on it, like any fear it can be cured over time, but only if you actively work to expand your comfort zone.

Models by Mark Manson is also a great book you should read which goes more into a lot of stuff and is widely recommended at least on this sub.

In general one of the most helpful things I found in developing my own social skills was to see each interaction as its own reward, rather than treating it as a means to an end. And you can read all the books you want, but you have to get out and practice if you want to make progress. Learn to hold eye contact, strike up conversations with random people, etc.

For friends I'd recommend cultivating some interests that require you to leave the house and join groups. But make sure its a genuine interest, and you're not just trying to join random groups in order to try to get friends.

for girls, its up to you. Its generally a good idea to get your life in order before trying to invite someone into it. If you want to lose your virginity to a girl in a one-night-stand then that's fine too, its up to you.

Dyablo66 · 2015-08-20T21:42:02+00:00

First off, no one can sense if you're a virgin if you don't give a shit about it. No one ever suspected I was one back in the day, because aside from my lack of game I was a total party animal and I didn't give a shit about anything. If you want to lose it, you need to meet new girls and find one that you'll eventually click with. It would be the best if you can somehow meet them naturally, like through your work or hobby. If you can't, clubs and online dating. You'll be anxious, especially in real life approaches. I wish I could give you a good tip, but in my case there wasn't one: just grab your balls and dive in. Just like a cold shower - it becomes bearable after a while, but your body will always try to stop you.

If you want to try online dating, here's an awesome guide to that by Good Looking Loser: http://www.goodlookingloser.com/entry/get-laid-online/how-to-lose-your-virginity-part-1

It guides you through everything and gives great mindsets, altough it might take a while.

This is all I can say about this post. Attracting women is an extremely broad topic, so read the sidebar here or try to give specific questions. Good luck ;)

Dreamlite · 2015-08-21T00:49:44+00:00

you just need to grow a pair. sorry man.

Title	What advice can you give a 26 year old virgin
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Date	August 20, 2015 9:18 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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