Sedditors! I met this girl on tinder few months ago and yesterday i asked her out. I'm nervous !

2015-08-26T22:25:31+00:00

Dude you need to chill the fuck out.

You're obviously putting this woman up on a pedestal by saying things like shes the prettiest girl you ever met, and wanting to give her a special moment to cherish. Also, NEVER try to put a label on things by saying something like "so is this a date?". It comes off as needy and desperate. Don't say more things like that for the love of god.

You got her to agree to see you, so that's awesome. Conversation can stop there, unless you need to firm up plans of when/where you're going to meet up.

Also, do you want to play videogames or get laid? Don't take her to a super fancy place but don't take her for fast food either.

Sorry for being harsh but you really need to back off a bit. If you come off as needy before you even meet her, she's going to get scared away really quickly.

yokhai · 2015-08-27T00:49:46+00:00

You don't need to blow her socks off. You need to be yourself and vibe with her and see if this is the kind of girl you want to continue seeing. Trying to play an extravagant date that she will cherish is a fools errand.

Go out with her, be yourself, get to know her, be objective and enjoy yourself. No need for all the glitz and glamour.

2015-08-27T00:53:20+00:00

Good luck to you. Khan Saab. ;)

Maloney-z · 2015-08-26T21:42:18+00:00

I'm not an expert but what I will say is that this won't be a good date if you obsess over it, there nothing in particular you can do to make "this a moment she'll cherish" because that's not why people go on dates, its to enjoy themselves.

So plan some fun things to do, take her somewhere where you can strike up a conversation and where you can get some kino in.

A place I like to go somewhere with a pool table and get her to play a game with me. It makes for easy conversation and that way I can come in behind her and say "maybe I can show you a few things" to get the kino rolling, holding her from behind and guiding her hand with the pool stick.

ResistingTemptation · 2015-08-26T22:29:42+00:00

Have you met her before? How do you know she's the prettiest girl you met?

And don't ask her if it's a date lol. You're meant to lead as the guy. Tell her it's a date. Try not to obsess over the date though and do plenty of kino!

Sounds like you have oneitis even before meeting her so deal with that too.

Title	Sedditors! I met this girl on tinder few months ago and yesterday i asked her out. I'm nervous !
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Date	August 26, 2015 9:17 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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