One of my closest friends is a woman. Am I a beta orbiter?

Very_Naive_Girl · 2014-04-14T12:27:37+00:00

Do you value her friendship? or do you want to bury your d in her? If you don't value her friendship, then you are a beta orbiter.

Jalil343 · 2014-04-14T12:30:03+00:00

Not enough to go on, but I say if you're keeping frame and not letting her bleed you for resources or time you can't spare, and as long as you don't pass up opportunities in fair of hanging with her, you should be fine

NobodygoingNowhere · 2014-04-14T13:37:37+00:00

If your getting what you desire out of your relationship with this girl than there isn't a problem.

RevBoni · 2014-04-14T14:12:58+00:00

Haha, I also have a female friend who I find quite hot, but her character just doesn't fit with me and I would simply detest putting my d in her. But actually, she is kind of my wingwoman. A girl who COMPLETELY gets RP knowledge, which I find amazing and she keeps hooking me up with her female friends, who are also quite hot. You know that tendency, 1 hot female most of the time has hot female friends. Lots of fun!

nzcrazycat · 2014-04-14T12:42:47+00:00

No, not all.....you can learn valuable lesson from each other. :)

New_Horiz0ns · 2014-04-14T13:28:54+00:00

I have a female friend.

Before TRP. We would just go out to clubs and get fucked up. However, I would always listen to her stupid whining and bitching and wasting time with her. I never had any intention of fucking her, but I was just there being her emotional tampon.

However after TRP, I realized this was a one way relationship. She was not my bro. She was giving me nothing. I realized there was no camaraderie, like I had with my bro's. So I cut her out.

Psychobot5000 · 2014-04-14T13:43:40+00:00

Just ask yourself if you would treat her any different than any of your other friends. You can be friends with women without orbiting.

MrDaddy · 2014-04-14T14:02:50+00:00

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Vulturo · 2014-04-14T13:02:19+00:00

Most probably you are, you just won't admit it.

drqxx · 2014-04-14T13:17:24+00:00

Sounds defensivly asked. Is your current girl friend sexier then your friend? Does you friend casually flirt with you in an ambiguous manner.

MrDaddy · 2014-04-14T15:13:06+00:00

In her mind possibly. Even if you honestly consider that you've got a platonic friendship, she might very well see you as being one of her orbiters. I wouldn't be satisfied with that kind of relationship, would you be?

I think the thing to remember is that friendships for men are often based on shared experiences. It's easy to build those kind of friendships with other dudes, you just need a shared interest, even if it's just in your local sporting team of choice.

It's harder for men to form true friendships with women. There almost needs to be a childhood connection, a shared LSD trip, a big age difference (with her being >15 years older than you) or a previous sexual relationship to get over either your desire for her, or her belief that you desperately want her V.

Aerobus · 2014-04-14T17:17:34+00:00

If you are spending a lot of money on her specifically (I.e. more than on other friends) and you have had sexual thoughts about her (beyond "she is hot"), then congratulations you have reached orbital velocity.

MrDaddy · 2014-04-14T17:46:34+00:00

Let's have Patrice O'Neal help you out.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=t9QOQNcpuiA

Stop fucking with us when you say you don't want her. You're being delusional, with that type of rationalization.

If she offered to fuck you, no strings attached, would you? If you're saying No, and you actually think she's pretty...you're a young dude that has no context on life.

Best of Luck, you got a mental infection that's going to take a lot of time to work though. I know that, because I see myself in your own "idealistic" eyes. You're 4 years behind me, if you start now.

steadymotion · 2014-04-14T17:57:59+00:00

No, being close to a woman you're not fucking doesn't mean you're a beta orbiter. A beta orbiter is close to a woman and does nice things for her with the hope that she'll reward him with sex. If that's not your mindset, you're not a beta orbiter.

But she must be some unicorn if you value her just for her company. I find women are boring as hell if you take away the sexual component, hence why I wouldn't want them around unless I'm fucking them or things are heading that way. To each his own.

-Tyler_Durden- · Thu Jan 1 0:00:00 1970 UTC

If you are doing and buying stuff for her in hopes of one day having the privilege of fucking her then yes you are an orbiter. If not, don't worry about it.

W_O_M_B_A_T · 2014-04-15T05:42:31+00:00

Is she bringing value to your life? (for example, by hooking you up with female friends of hers? Or helping you with when you need to organize your closet... )

Is there reciprocity? (she texts you about as much as you text her? does she brink beer to your party?)

[deleted] · 2014-04-14T12:52:49+00:00

Hey, always nice to be friends with a pretty girl.

MrDaddy · 2014-04-14T13:09:28+00:00

Dude, work the pre-selection angle.

[deleted] · 2014-04-14T12:47:04+00:00

Are you an orbiter, hell no.

Title	One of my closest friends is a woman. Am I a beta orbiter?
Author	MrDaddy
Upvotes	5
Comments	79
Date	April 14, 2014 12:09 PM UTC (12 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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