As title suggest my GF is going through rough times unrelated to our relationship just her own personal life situation. Relationship is very seperate, we are not involved in each others life ie no cross-over, we live 45min-hr away, see each other 1-2 times a week etc

My initial approach was to give her a bit of a kick in the ass, tell her stop moping, focus on what she needs to do and what not. Now she is doing what she needs to but still depressed as she has a long road ahead of her.

I try and help her with her tasks as much as I can, but this obviously makes the relationship take a backseat, which I am perfectly fine with, but perhaps she is not? She mentioned that she 'needs more'...I chalked it up to her current circumstances and didn't take it as a sincere sentiment she wants to take our relationship to a further level.

To this point I have always been her rock, but as her circumstances changes and we see each other a bit less now plus I'm busy aswell, I feel my hands are tied. Her depressive state either makes her emotionless or completely bummed out, and its difficult for me to gauge what she needs at times. It certainly feels like the intimacy has waned and we are tapping into the 'friendship' side of things as I just attempt to give out positive energy to her and help with what she needs. The relationship is on hold to a degree.

Any thoughts my friends?