To me, seduction is a delayed gratification game. So when I started following "be outcome independent, don't care about what happens with her." I noticed a drop in my motivation to approach and really to push because logically "if you don't expect to get paid for the work you're doing, why work at all?"

You don't cook because you necessarily enjoy cooking. You cook because you expect to get food at the end.

Should I begin to love the art of 'cooking' or is there some other I could interpret this?