How do you approach girls at parties/loud settings?

2015-10-03T04:28:21+00:00

I find it's best not to approach them at all. Instead, try to attract others to you by having loud and fun interactions with anyone who you can vibe with, men included. If you're successful with this you can get a bit of a group going. Girls will naturally be attracted to whoever is making the most noise (as long as you're not being a clown).

Not that you shouldn't approach, maybe the girls you want don't happen to float into your circle. However, during large social events, it's 100x more effective to approach a girl AFTER she's seen you being social with other people, especially if you were able to hold the attention of a small group in a positive way.

Kind of a stupid analogy, but it's like the difference between approaching a girl as a celebrity, vs. approaching the girl as a nobody. Not that making stupid loud drunken jokes makes you a "celebrity" but there are definitely parallels there.

ImJustSo · 2015-10-03T07:28:18+00:00

In loud ass places, you can't talk with your words. It's all about eye contact, dancing, and making funny facial expressions, body language, etc.

Basically, I just pretend to be Robin Williams as a mime.

SmoothPrimal · 2015-10-03T08:10:47+00:00

Depends on the place.

I was at this event and I just asked "Howd you hear about the event?" Started several convos with groups of girls with that one.

Bounced to a bar with stuff to look at. I had a date, but when I got bored and she was talking to someone else I took it as an opportunity to go look at the displays and used those as an opportunity to talk to the girl right next to me. Went outside and a girl actually initiated by asking me to take her picture with her friends.

We then moved to a night club and I talked to girl at the line who asked "is this the line." I fucked that one up, girl was totally down to abandon her friend and hangout with me, but my friends were pussies and wanted to go home instead. That was a gorgeous blonde too. Still kicking myself over that one, should have just stayed with her and taken a cab.

It's not just about the things you say it's also about taking advantage of opportunities of any kind. If you see an opening go in and don't hesitate, say fuck it. And most importantly have fun no matter what, obviously its more fun if you approach girls.

If its a loud setting you just speak louder open your mouth more and use hand gestures to make it clearer. If she's hooked just move your mouth closer to her ear. It's a good excuse to get close.

2015-10-03T01:37:47+00:00

Few hours I opened two times with something about how they were dancing one got a bf the other was 3years younger thus like 15 so got "denied" two times but yeah i tried once it worked with someone 6 years older than me but it's only three times that I approached a girl so yeah don't take what I say for granted

Title	How do you approach girls at parties/loud settings?
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Date	October 3, 2015 12:56 AM UTC (10 years ago)
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