This last year I moved into a new job and new city in the midwest (Moved out of my parents house). I hardly knew anyone around here. I was 100 pounds over weight as well and had a lot mental issues due to getting cheated on during a LTR.

After dropping some serious weight, I started to notice people just were nicer to me at work and while out doing my routines. I took some dance classes at a local college and finally started dating again after 2 years + of being single. After those girls fell through (I came off super needy, in hindsight), I felt I wanted to keep dating but just was not around enough single women (I work in IT).

I finally said "fuck it" one day this last summer, as I was getting sick of spending all my weekends alone video gaming, and I decided to go out to the bar near my house. It was a rough start, as I was nervous as shit, but it was sheer feeling of helplessness/hopelessness with my social life that kept me from leaving. It was at swing bar, and after 3 approaches (and failures) I started to actually feel better.

"This isn't so bad" I thought, and even getting rejected didn't feel that bad after it kept happening. I started to smile more and generally enjoy myself and it greatly helped my game the rest of the night. I approached over 15 girls and danced with most of them. Some of them were showing (fuck me for not noticing back then) STRONG IOIs but I just moved on to the next because I was still nervous and didn't know what to do/look for. I ended the night with no numbers or anything, but I did feel proud that I was able to do this.

Over the last 5 months I have probably been out about 13 nights soloing. The last time I was out it was night and day compared to the first time.

I walked into the swing bar, and instantly walk up to a cute blonde who is sitting with her friends. I immediately ask her to dance and give her my name and we dance for a long time. She brings me back to her friends and introduces me to everyone. I make friends with them fast, then across the bar I notice a girl staring at me, and I thought she looked familiar. The girl smiles and walks over to me and gives me a big hug and asks ME to dance. Took me 10 minutes to remember where I saw her before but I finally do and she invites me to have a drink with her group. I suddenly have two groups to hang with and only been there half a hour. After chilling out with them for a bit I leave to practice my solo game. I walk up to 2 girls and dance with both of them, one of them I get the phone number close before leaving her.

On the way back to the 2nd groups table, a cute short black chick stops me and gives me a big hug. Took me a minute to remember her but I do. I danced with her before couple of weeks prior. She gives me some solid IOIs, but I was already so busy with so many people I was unable to get back with her.

After awhile a new group walks in and I recognize two girls I have danced with before, one of them was newly single from what I have heard. The newly single girl begs me for a dance, and invites me to sit with their group. I happily oblige and she starts throwing huge IOIs, after getting some drinks we go dance and I had one of best grinding sessions of my life. If I had pre ejaculation issues... that ass would have drowned. We grind for a solid 40 minutes straight and we were in a euphoric state by the end of it. She offered to give me a ride home, but I was so very tired, and I was pretty sure we would go out again later that I just got the number and left (I regret nothing). It was a great night for me.

Not all nights go as well as that while solo gaming, but personally I am Ok with that. You have nothing to lose most of the time as you would have just sat home anyways. Side effects of solo gaming for me have been a much increase in my own confidence. I don't feel like a ugly goon any more, and I feel I have much more control in my social life. No longer am I sitting and waiting for one girl to text me back for months, hoping something will work out because she is the only girl I have contact with right now. The more I go out alone, the more poeple I actually get to know, and like the last time I was out, I always find someone to hang out with. Solo gaming has given me hope that the next great girl is right around corner and I just have to go find her. This is a great feeling.

My own final note on this is once you run into a chick who really enjoys your company and flirts with you heavily, it makes everything else worth it. You forget about all the rejection you have had that night. If I had to pass on any lessons I learned from first half year of solo gaming, it's that there is always at least one chick out there who wants to get to know you. You just have to go find them.

TL;DR Start soloing gaming fool