I have oneitis -- and I fear it won't go away until I hookup with this girl.

WayOfTheGentleman · 2015-10-19T16:14:09+00:00

STOP FOCUSING ON SEX.

You really like this girl dude! That's cool! She really likes you too! That's awesome!

STOP FOCUSING ON SEX.

Dude stop thinking about friendzone and oneitis and all this bullshit. It doesn't mean jack shit. Think about your feelings. How do you feel about this girl? Do you like her? Do you want to be around her? Do you want to share things with her and do things with her? Yeah? Then do those things!

Sex is a byproduct, not the goal.

Just continue to hang out with her man. Find little times to give her a kiss or hold her hand or be intimate in other ways other than sex. Keep it physical, keep trying to escalate, but don't rush anything. Just hang out with her as much as you want. Eventually, if you keep hanging out you will be intimate the sex will come. Trust me it will come and when it comes you will bang for MONTHS and you will be so happy and it will be wonderful.

STOP FOCUSING ON SEX. SEX IS NOT THE GOAL.

The goal is real, true, authentic human connection. The goal is love. You are developing a loving relationship with this woman and this is the most incredible thing you can do.

Do you try to have sex? Yes. But sex is not the goal. Sex is a byproduct of a loving connected relationship between two people who are attracted to one another.

(And as a note, she probably gave you the redlight/greenlight thing because she thinks your a player but actually likes you and wants to make sure that you aren't just gonna pump and dump her. If you really like her, DONT PUMP AND DUMP HER).

happyself · 2015-10-19T16:59:17+00:00

Are you that douche from the movie Hitch?

Title	I have oneitis -- and I fear it won't go away until I hookup with this girl.
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Upvotes	4
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Date	October 19, 2015 3:54 PM UTC (10 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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