I do a lot of stuff for mental game, but I still feel like I'm not good enough occasionally. How do you fight the mental battle?

jedihooker · 2015-11-02T04:03:02+00:00

"Lions don't concern themselves with the opinions of sheep."

Treat yourself like a god, don't care what others think, you will shine. It's like the "free couch" on the sidewalk. No mater what it looks like, if you put a price tag on it, someone will steal it. If it just says "free", nobody will take it.

Jacob_961 · 2015-11-02T05:57:57+00:00

"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who neither know victory nor defeat." - Theodore Roosevelt

Most of the times we feel bad because we feel people are judging us and possibly in a negative light. The realization that critics have no value whatsover gives you the ability to feel comfortable in your own skin. A truly high value person lays himself bare to the world without any hesitation, worry or self doubt. On the other hand, pussies are afraid their precious ego will be crushed and forever hide in the shadows, neither knowing victory nor defeat.

Tjodleik · 2015-11-02T16:15:31+00:00

How do you fight the mental battle?

Simple. By not participating.

To elaborate, my view is that every time you fight something within yourself, being it approach anxiety, lack of confidence or whatever, you are basically fighting yourself. This means that you may win that particular battle, but you can never win the war. To add to the problem, whatever you defeat it will most likely come back later and bite you in the ass, simply because it is a part of who you are.

So, what do I mean by "not participating?"

I'll let this and this do most of the "talking", but the general idea is that if you spend time and energy fighting emotions, thoughts, habits or the occasional feeling of not being good enough, you are basically "feeding" the very thing you are fighting, because you assign meaning to it and therefore create an emotional bond to that specific situation/emotion/habit/whatever. Personally I used meditation to "disconnect" from unwanted thoughts, which allowed me to observe them with minimal involvement and eventually break free from them because I deprived them of their "food."

I do a lot of stuff for mental game, but I still feel like I'm not good enough occasionally.

Which should be perfectly fine, as long as you don't use it as an excuse to sit on your ass and not take action. Even the best have bad days, and the only difference between the best and the rest is that the best don't let a setback win the day. So if the feeling of not being good enough just pops up occasionally, and otherwise doesn't affect your life that much, I'd say it's just a sign that you're still human. In my experience the best thing to do is to be honest and acknowledge to yourself that you don't necessarily feel all that chipper, spend some time making the emotion "heard" and find out what's causing it if you feel like it, then move on. Now, if it wrecks the entire day, week or month, stops you from reaching goals and drag you down for a longer period of time, then it has become a problem that needs attention. Otherwise it's just a part of being human. In my personal experience it can actually improve your results if you can be honest enough to say "Y'know, today I'm not feeling all that good," as being "good enough" around the clock can make you come across as unattainable or even insecure, cause no one is positive all the time. If you show the occasional chink in the armor, people can relate to that and as a result tend to connect easier.

Good luck being human :)

Title	I do a lot of stuff for mental game, but I still feel like I'm not good enough occasionally. How do you fight the mental battle?
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Date	November 1, 2015 11:32 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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