How do you make friends at a regular university when you are a commuter student?

nagasakki · 2015-12-03T05:02:59+00:00

I think I can answer that. A little of background: I'm a exchange student studying in the US for one year, I'm Brazilian and I have lived there all my life, so I had no clue how was to live abroad.
When I first got here I had 0 friends, lucky for me the university had a lot of meetings to help international students, but that only helped me to a certain point.

As soon as I got here I joined a lot of clubs and did activities, getting involved in general. Right now I'm participating in the Robotics club, Coding club and I go to a one hour meeting called International Conversation hour that gathers international students and Americans and the point is just to talk really. Surprisingly I don't like the International Conversation Hour very much because I feel I have a different taste/lifestyle them people there, sure I can talk non-stop for one hour, but in the end I did just that: talk for one hour. I made few friends there.

I like you found it difficult to make friends in classes, as a Engineering student our classes are mostly just the professor speaking and everyone listening. What I did to solve that was to arrive a little earlier and introduce myself to people, since I'm Brazilian I can just talk about culture and stuff like that. Also when I everyone was leaving the class I would approach with a random conversation like: "Hey, I didn't understood what the professor just told us, when is the homework due?" even though I understood perfectly, just using that as an ice-break. Then from that point I would lead the conversation to other topics.

I don't know the right word for it, maybe it's "handout", those papers that are in every wall on the campus. I was able to go in some trips like rafting trip, six flags trip and an Oktoberfest trip.

After meeting a feel people I was invited to parties and from there I ended knowing more people and now I'm comfortable with the friendships I made. I'm not trying to date anyone, I read this subreddt mostly for the self-improvement part.

I hope I was able to help you, good luck!

authenticsociallife · 2015-12-03T02:38:50+00:00

Talk to the women there. Lots are commuters also.

notaneggspert · 2015-12-03T03:43:49+00:00

Bars.

SrirachaOnMyNipples · 2015-12-03T03:44:17+00:00

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cipahs · 2015-12-03T06:53:40+00:00

join a frat

who gets laid the most

frat guys and sports guys

frat guys due to access, status, social game, and the pressure your under to 'pull'.

all you have to do is lift heavy, and be able to make it through the hellish mindfuck that is pledging. Honestly it was worse than boot camp, and in my frat they brand which sucked extra ass.

HovaPrime · 2015-12-03T10:58:43+00:00

Well I was in a bind like you awhile ago, I think one of the most important things you have to keep in mind is that you need to be comfortable with yourself first. Being comfortable with yourself, you'll be more open with other people and a lot of the times I realize people think I'm a pretty cool dude because I'm so relaxed and confident about myself that they'd actually want to hang out with me.
So once you're comfortable with yourself, you can start up friendly conversations with the people sitting next to you in class, I find this particularly easy when we talk about our grades or upcoming tests, just something to break the ice. Once you start doing that you'll realize that it's getting easier to be in these interactions. When that happens usually I like to invite them to hangout with me and my group of friends, or if there's an upcoming test I'll ask if they wanna study together (for studying purposes, not seduction). That's basically how I came to meet most of the friends that I've met on campus as a commuter. Oh also a very important tip: Try your very best to go to ANY social event you're invited to it's a great way to establish a solid relation with your classmate and show that you're now their friend and not just another classmate.

Shitstarlord · 2015-12-03T19:46:06+00:00

how did you make friends in high school? do that. in high school there were no dorms and you all made friends in school. is that not possible anymore? you just have to put yourself out there and be social. if youre an introvert its harder but you have to make yourself a little vulnerable to get people to open up. since you dont have the luxury of living in the same building and having to see everyone all the time, then you have to be the one to initiate meeting up with friends and doing activities.

im a commuter right now in the same exact situation and am having no problems whatsoever making friends.

Shitstarlord · 2015-12-03T19:50:52+00:00

ill also add you should talk to the people in your classes and bond over common hardships you have, like that one prof who noone understands, have a laugh about that. or that exam that was nuts. you get what im saying? you and a bunch of other people are all going through similiar situations, connect with people through those common threads.

leotheraccount · 2015-12-03T03:30:50+00:00

Chill with people that live on campus after class, get involved in sports, clubs and events, be social in class, get in study groups, longboard, hit up the campus bar to write papers. Lots of opportunities in college man no reason not to meet people.

Title	How do you make friends at a regular university when you are a commuter student?
Author	SrirachaOnMyNipples
Upvotes	6
Comments	12
Date	December 3, 2015 2:32 AM UTC (10 years ago)
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