Help me coordinate the perfect date?

sed9499 · 2015-12-19T21:02:43+00:00

So I landed a Tinder date for tomorrow and it needs to be perfect.

If you go into it with that mindset, it's over. It won't work out the way you want. You need to relax - women like men are relaxed and not needy, not some guy who is heavily invested in making sure this date is important. It's one of the paradoxes of game - when you don't care, women become interested, when you do care, women lose interest.

Basically, "it needs to be perfect" is a desperation mentality. It's saying "I don't have any other options, I am so far below you and desperate that this NEEDS TO BE PERFECT. I don't think I'll ever be able to date someone of your quality again, because I am not an attractive or high status enough man." Women can sense that, so you gotta relax when you go out. It doesn't need to be perfect. Treat it like some random date with someone who you're not sure that you're into. Don't pack a backpack, don't invest in this - you're thinking like a man, you're thinking that if you prepare everything and put a lot of effort into it she will appreciate it and want to spend more time with you (romantically/sexually). It doesn't work like that; attraction is unconscious and not a choice, and women LOSE attraction to men who show themselves as needy or desperate (why would a high-status man who has lots of options feel he NEEDS a date to be perfect? Why would he spend so much time preparing for the date with a backpack and everything?), and putting a lot of effort into a first date = needy/desperate in a woman's unconscious mind.

Relax, don't prepare, go into this date with a relaxed mind, go into this date with an attitude of "I don't even know how interested in her I am, she's going to have to show herself as an interesting person for her to get a second date, whatever, let's just relax and have fun and maybe I'll be interested in a second date, maybe" and you'll do much better. She'll sense you aren't needy, you aren't desperate, and if she's attractive, that will be unusual, and it will subconsciously imply to her that you're used to being around attractive women and that you're unafraid of her rejecting you, and therefore that you must have a lot of other options, and therefore you must be high status, and therefore... she will, as a result of unconscious forces that she isn't aware of, feel attraction to you.

Ravnurin · 2015-12-19T17:34:20+00:00

Here's an awesome thing I did. I brought a bottle of Captain Morgan (rom) in my bag, and 2 glasses. Obviously you can substitute it for wine or any other drink.

And then I'd make a playful role play out of it..."alright, so check it out. I brought some [drink] with me for us to share, but it's like tooootally illegal and bad of us to be drinking in public, so we gotta be like super ninja about it. I'm talking while one of us is pouring from the bottle the other has to be on a look out for people or cops y'know, cus this is sooo bad of us!"

Don't bring any physical game. Play a game like 20 Questions or 5 Things.

20 Questions: take turns asking each other questions; start innocent and gradually turn things naughty ("first kiss?" "First time you had sex?" "Naughtiest sex you've had?" Etc.) Not allowed to ask the same questions. And always make sure to comment on her answers - it shouldn't just be question after question, that's no fun.

5 Things: "Tell me 5 things about you that no one knows about. I'll go after." Great for rapport.

If feeling ballsy...

The Nervous Game: "alright we'll play a game...it's called the Nervous Game. I'm gonna ask if you're nervous or not, and you say yes or no. Whenever you say yes we switch. You ready? Okay..." Then you place your hands on her lap and ask her if she's nervous. If she says no, you move up a bit further. You just continue until you're either playing with her pussy or she says 'yes'. Then you swap and she does it to you. It's a lot of fun!

Title	Help me coordinate the perfect date?
Author	Sneakypeepeen
Upvotes	0
Comments	6
Date	December 19, 2015 5:24 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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