Hi guys,

So I'm new to this and I've just done a bit of reading on TRP. I'll tell you guys about what's going on, then a bit about me (not compulsory to read), but the important thing is feedback.

The situation: Hooked up with a girl last year when she was with her bf after a couple of months of being her white knight with her relationship problems. She told him, they stayed together and broke up in December when he couldn't trust her anymore. That night she came to mine, I acted like he white knight from then on. We hooked up in Jan and were casual, but she wanted monogamy without a relationship.

The ex wanted her back, I told her she needed to choose and she eventually chose (took a month) to tell him that she doesn't want him anymore. She also said she wanted a break from me to fix her head and then get back together. I declined her offer and said it's now or never. She is currently going through depression and anxiety which has been going on for about 6-12 months and is now getting help. She has since distanced herself from me (we don't see each other as frequently and we don't message all day everyday anymore - more like a message or 2 a day), we haven't had sex in about 6 weeks, she still messages her ex (but says she wants to be friends with him and has chosen me) and she still wants a break to sort out her own head. She says she can't commit now and just needs time etc. She's also a huge rationalisation hamster.

My options are: keep this going and remain unstable; break up with her and go back to spinning plates; or to give her that break, even though I hate the concept of her having the opportunity to hook up with someone else, like her ex.

About me: grew up in a feminine household, so raised to be a beta white knight. Since being at uni for a few years now, I became far more alpha - physically better looking, more confident, significant goals etc. and I tripled the number of girls I'd slept with before uni in one or 2 years. I was a pro at spinning plates for a while, until I agreed to be monogamous but couldn't give up spinning. I then went all MGTOW and was abstinent for about 8 months before meeting this girl. Now I feel like a bit of an orbiter.

Advice would be appreciated guys.