I don't know if the word "denial" is the right word to use but I had a friend who used to not actively approach girls yet have them approach him--what makes it even more insane was how he is not the type to seek attention. When I asked him how he was able to attract girls he used tell me to "not care" for girls in a social setting because when you are out and about chilling at a bar, café, park etc. or even doing something, if there are women around you and you constantly stop what you are doing to stare at them or devise a plan to approach, you will fail. For example, one day, him and I were hanging out with a group of mutual friends--both were girls and one of them was dime piece. He didn't say much through out the conversation and in fact was just looking through his phone, I was talking to one of the girls however the girls went to use the "bathroom" I later found out from him (after he started dating the really hot one) that the reason both of the girls went to the bathroom was because the really hot girl was trying to find out what is up with my buddy--she isn't used to being ignored and this made her intrigued/curious about him. When they came back to join us the attractive girl "decided" to get our numbers (this was her way of indirectly getting his number without directly asking him) and from there the rest is history (btw he was never to text first) what is funny about this situation is how she thought both of us were attractive yet she wanted his number and attention because he initially didn't give it to her, whereas I was just having small talk with her and her friend.

So if you think about it the idea is to not actively chase or pursue women, in fact women should not even be in your mind and you should just focus on yourself, and the one that notices you will be the one that will want to pursue you...Now in my case I try to do this and the opposite works. The girls that would show any sign of interest are either not attractive and if they are hot they are just teases or crazy. How can one "not care" if he "cares" and what kind of mentality can you develop that will help you genuinely "not care" for females. I notice that the more I think a lot about how seduction works or how the female mind works, when I see couples or even when I squander about in anger that a lot of females make stupid decisions hooking up with dudes that later break their hearts the more I feel anger and pressure. This will in turn show subtly in my actions when I am with girls and I know they can pick up on it. But when I am in that carefree state of mind where all I am worrying about is myself and how to create a more attractive version of myself I feel free and at ease (no one can cause me to feel shitty about myself) Funny, its also at this state where I feel that there are an abundance of women out there for me and the ones that played me or rejected me leave my train of thought--they only come back when I focus a lot on how to attract women.

Sorry for the length but this question bugs the crap out of me ALL the time when I think about it