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Sabotaging your chances

Deathblow4600 · 2016-01-14T00:24:59+00:00

Have any of you ever experienced this? I feel like I always do this. Like I'll be pursuing someone I really like and then as I feel I'm getting...

Deathblow4600

January 14, 2016

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Title	Sabotaging your chances
Author	Deathblow4600
Upvotes	7
Comments	8
Date	January 14, 2016 12:24 AM UTC (10 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/40v1i7/sabotaging_your_chances/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/seduction/sabotaging-your-chances.1400640 https://theredarchive.com/post/1400640

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[–]nixsee 4 points5 points6 points 10 years ago* (7 children) | Copy Link

I used to knowingly shoot myself in the foot all the time by calling people out on bullshit they say on a first date. But that's because I was going out with shitty, immature people to begin with. Now that I have a much better filter for my time and who I interact with, nearly all dates are good convo and sometimes lead to more.

The fact that this sub is called seduction is the entire problem. You shouldn't be actively seducing anyone... It'll happen naturally if you've built yourself into a person that women want to be with.

Stop with the gimmicks, rules and tricks. Just be a normal, interesting, confident, honest, genuine human and you'll have way more success, however you define that. I regularly have girls tell me it's so refreshing to meet me because I'm honest etc... We often hook up, because girls like sex too, but can sense and hate the standard deceit.

Caveat: this will work more with emotionally mature women than immature girls (which is often an age independent distinction). But why would you want to be with an immature girl whose entire self worth is tied up in her appearance, which devalues by the day, anyway?

[–]NickTheHeroic 1 point2 points3 points 10 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link

This, so much. For years I followed the gurus of seduction and their teachings religiously, but found that ultimately it was all just a facade to hide myself behind. It wasn't until I stopped obsessing over those insignificant details like what to say, or when to say it and start concentrating on improving myself as a person and just letting things flow naturally did I actually start experiencing real success with women.

I also agree with the emotionally mature women part, too. I hooked up with a lot of girls using seduction tactics, but these were girls who spent there nights trying not to pass out at McDonalds at 4am are having also hooked up with numerous other guys that weren't me. If you want good, stable and emotionally healthy women you need to be emotionally healthy yourself. Have confidence in your ability as a man to meet and attract women and you'll be on the right path to true success.

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