It's Alive!

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Intro  

This is my first time attempting game since I bailed on pickup about 10 years ago.

 

Preparation  

Yesterday used 3 second rule on OkCupid and Tinder. Tap match, scan profile, type opener without thinking.  

Tap, scan, type. Tap, scan, type, until I was out of matches / had carpal tunnel.

 

Takeaways  

  • Not letting myself think between openers made me see how many damn women are on these apps and made any one reply seem small in comparison.
  • The next day I'd have at least 2 message notifications on my phone whenever I looked at it. Replying to messages every time I took a break helped keep me in state.

 

Day Game  

Goal was 2 approaches (basically just to start a conversation since I'm a noob).

Was at Walmart for stuff, asked an old lady "Hey, do you know where the notebooks are?"  

She told me which isle and I bought the notebook I needed. One down.

 

Getting a snack at a grocery store, wandering around scanning, but everyone is preoccupied shopping. Saw a cute brunette 15 feet down an isle, walked up to her. She was facing 90 degrees away from me. I did the same thing:

With a big smile I asked,

 

"Excuse me, do you know where they keep protein bars?"

She turned to face me and brushed her hair over her ear to say,

"I think they're on,... the other side,... near the milk."

"So near the dairy section?"

"Hmm,... yeahhh."

"Oh, great, thanks!"

 

After the fact I should have said "Hey, come with me, show me where they are" and done a "mini-date." Next time.

 

Takeaways  

  • No one is paying attention to you. At all. Do whatever you want.
  • You don't know what's going to happen. That's what's exciting.

 

Meditation helps IMMENSELY.  

I started meditating April of last year, and now do it 20 minutes day (at least).

 

One of the meditations (from the Headspace App, Heart Series) is to imagine a pinpoint of light in the middle of your chest, and watch it expand while feeling your body relax and feelings of love, etc,...

 

After that you do the same thing but imagine someone else extremely happy, with that same pinpoint of light.

 

Why should you give a shit?  

That happened automatically when I saw this brunette. I was thinking about how happy she could be and how much I wanted to see her light up, for her own sake.

 

No worrying about appoaching, not in my head, just feeling amazing.

 

To the Mall  

Off to a big, trendy mall that's popular on the weekend. Packed. Felt amazing / in-state. Asked an Asian women (I readily admit I have an incurable case of yellow fever)

 

"Hey, my watch stopped, what time is it?" (blatant lie)  

She said "I'm not sure but I just left Dillards at 6:20."  

"Great, thanks." That's 3 approaches. Go.

 

Super hot, dressed up brunette is walking toward me on the side of the walkway. She's looking at her phone, zoned out.  

No idea what to say. Saw her Starbucks cup.  

"Hey! Where'd you get that?" pointing to the coffee.  

I was too excited and jittery because she said,  

"Uh,.... Starbucks,.... That way,.. around the corner?"  

"Thanks!"  

That's 4.  

I realized I needed to eat something to calm me down.

 

Dinner  

Felt exhausted, went to a sandwich place. The cashier gave me a pager that goes off when your order's done.  

Without thinking I said "I haven't seen a pager since the 90's!" but barely said it since my throat was dry and I was passing out.

"Hmm,.. Oh right here's your receipt!"

 

I felt the momentum.

 

Then a hottie in yoga pants walks in, sits on the opposite side of the restaurant, about 20 feet away, but I had a clear path to her table. She was looking at her phone. I wanted to say something (and should have, no excuses). *Little help?*

 

Takeaways:

  • The more I do this the more I zone in on more approaches.
  • With the skill of being present from meditation it felt like my perpheral vision was as strong as my regular vision.
  • Noticing women became a sixth sense. It was insane.
  • Making eye contact became easy (but maybe creepy considering how hyped up I was and how low key a mall is).
  • With presence I started noticing subtle behaviors:
  • An average looking girl looked back at me then looked away and made a slight frown. (Insecure?)
  • One woman was in front of me. She looked back at something, made eye contact with me for a split second, then looked forward. She fidgeted a bit, moving her arms onto her hips but nervously. As I walked past her on the left, I noticed she moved very slightly towards me. Were these subconsious reactions?
  • Once I noticed I was overly hyper in this mall, I watched people's feet to see how fast they were walking and tried to match. Didn't really work but maybe someone will find it useful.

 

Night Game  

About 20 minutes from the mall there's a hip nightclub area. I never go to nightclubs, so intended on pushing myself into one and awkwardly saying something to a girl.

 

I was so tired I just drove home, but by the time I was almost home I had energy again.

 

I drove past some bars and eventually settled on one near my place. Lots of old people, but crowded at least.  

 

I clapped my hands together and yelled "Woooo" in my car (and was surprised how 'party mode' I felt). I had some RSD audio in the background and heard about that on the way there.  

 

Walked in, felt good, tried to find a girl to talk to as soon as I entered but the place was packed with everyone facing the bar, and three people deep. Ordered a sprite holding my debit card in the air for the bartender.

 

One guy walked by the guy next to me and said, "Did you fart?"

I just belted out, "Sorry, it was me." Felt good to have less of a filter.

 

Walked down the bar to where the only woman under 50 was, saw she had two older people on either side. I bailed. As I was walking to my car a woman was walking towards the bar (focusing on putting her keys in her purse) and I held up my sprite and yelled "Cheers!"

 

I guess that counts as 1 night game approach.

 

29 days to go.

Wooooooooooooo!