Pickup, its not about fulfilling an emptiness through pleasure and validation. This is why you can't game at all if you have any needy thoughts or desperation for sex. Its about social interactions, emotional connections with the other, empathy, humour, having a good time. When you start to enjoy the conversation as an end in itself all anxiety about pulling, having sex, getting her number goes away. You approach for the sake of doing it cause its fun, but you don't need anything from the girl. Theres nothing to lose and a lot to gain. If you fuck her great, if you don't great. You don't care. This is the difference between the "ice cold pimps" that are great at game and the frustrated new guy. Its not about the sex. ITS ABOUT BEING SOCIAL. BEING CONFIDENT, FUNNY AND CARISMATIC IN SOCIAL INTERACTIONS. Learning to bond with people.

Of course you never get laid, you think about sex 24/7 and can't focus on the actual interaction, you are thinking on the finish line without even getting started. You don't even know her and you are already thinking how you will pull her or fuck her.

When you stop making sex such a big deal you will start to actually have sex. Women like sex, its just that they are judged in society because of it. They need to feel comfortable in order to let go, without any emotional connection it is imposible to have sex. Only when you are free from outcome and can walk away without the compulsive need to have sex, you will actually have it. When you stop making it such a big deal so will the girl.

Start by actually approaching and learning social dynamics. All the push/pull, confident, conversation game, thats what you need to work on. The sex will come regardless, you don't need to chase it. You don't need it. Girls can't give you anything you don't already have.

Looks do matter, but they aren't the end all be all. You can be a really hot guy but if you got no game you are done for. Don't use this for an excuse, most of the time girls don't care, the deciding factor at the end of the day is your social skillset and how you handle shit tests.

Find a style that suits you (haircut/clothes), eat healthy, hit the gym, read insightful books, meditate, limit or stop watching pornography all together, work on your career and passions. This is mostly for inner game stuff, feeling great in your own skin, accomplishing great things. All this habits transfer to your interactions with women and improve your overall lifestyle, health and happiness.

Approaching becomes easy when you stop thinking about how everything could go wrong and how you are going to rejected and you realize that you have nothing to lose and a lot to gain. You will either get the girl or gain experience. The only real failure is not even trying, because nothing changes at all, nothing good breeds in the coziness of your comfort zone. You will never feel the rush of approaching the hottest girl in the room and actually succeeding, you will never prove yourself you actually can do it.

I think that the most important part, its not about the girl, its about having integrity and transcending your fears. Its about the person you become by going through the struggle, rejections and social anxiety. There would be no hero story if everything was so simple. Its about transformation, CHANGE, becoming something more, leaving behind who you used to be in order to become the person you want to be.

Believe me, there is no worse feeling than feeling regret over not approaching a girl you really liked, nobody is going to give you that moment back. A lost opportunity, you have lost your power to take action to fate.

You don't need to say anything special, just say what is on your mind. With practice your sets will get smoother and smoother until eventually it will be effortless.

This is not about sex. This is about becoming a human being capable of talking to the girl he likes. And the only way you can accomplish this is by approaching and getting reference experiences. This is about taking RESPONSIBILITY for the things that are in your control and taking right action to make them happen.

Remember YOU MISS ALL THE SHOTS YOU DON'T TAKE.