Need help overcoming a serious case of oneitis

Sry_Its_Jus_Business · 2016-05-09T17:59:20+00:00

I'm overly logical as well and when i ended my relationship, none of what i felt made sense even though i chose to end it. Been to therapy and it helps. Don't worry about the stigma, people are just ignorant to the fact that therapy is a real behavioral science with empirical backings. If your therapist sucks, don't stick around and switch. Go sign up for a class of some kind, something you've always wanted to do/learn/try. For me, i started singing lessons and every time i go into class, it makes me feel alive and happy. Also, volunteer a bit in your community. It's good for the soul and a great place to meet kind people. Be cognizant of the highs and lows you're feeling and let those emotions wash over you. Don't deny yourself this experience because it's very real and something you will likely experience more than once. Just embrace it. Also, journal when you have free time. Could be just on your computer or a scrap piece of paper. Doesn't have to be grammatically correct or make sense at all. Just journal whatever train of though comes to your mind. This helps especially if you can't sleep, which i'm sure you're experiencing some of.

Never let someone convince you that having feelings make you pathetic. Emotions are what drive us to become our best selves. I'd rather to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all.

morallycorruptgirl · 2016-05-09T16:15:03+00:00

Love makes people do crazy things. I'm a very logical person until I fall in love.

For the hopeless romantics in the world, it does get better with time. Although for me my Romanticism really helps in the seduction process.

DrLeoSpacechem · 2016-05-09T21:47:00+00:00

Fucking other women will evaporate oneitis

Big_TX · 2016-05-09T21:50:51+00:00

Are you approaching? Are you going on dates? Are you showing your Brain you have options? That's how you get over it. I highly dought Therapy will work (I've gone before). The problem is your brain feels like she is your only option so it's like "fuck man you gotta get her, blah blah blah." You fealing don't alwayse listen to logical thought. If you go out and show all parts of your brain/mind it has options it will feel like it has options and it will get over the girl. It seams like the problem is in your situation not your mind Idk how therapy would help. Maybe it would but it seams better to attack the cause not the symptom .

Also I'd like to recommend a book called "letting go: the path way of surrender" by Doctor David r Hawkins. It's really good. It explains emotions and thought very well as well as a lot of spirituality stuff. There is some woowoo stuff that you can just ignore, but despite that it has a TUN of value.

I don't think the technique in the book would work for this situation (but maybe it would) but it is a very valuable read.

Title	Need help overcoming a serious case of oneitis
Author	DenOfThieves13
Upvotes	4
Comments	12
Date	May 9, 2016 2:44 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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