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[–][deleted] 1 point2 points3 points 10 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
I'm literally the same guy, except that I'm 19, I'm not sure if this will helps you but I usually go out abroad but never at home, infact I approach shitloads of girls and make news friends far more abroad then in my own country for a reason, maybe this will help ? Just go and you'll be forced to talk to people.
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 10 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
How can you afford going abroad?
[–][deleted] 1 point2 points3 points 10 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Well I live in Belgium, Ghent and Paris is around 2.5 hours away with and costs around 150 euro, transport, hostel and food included and seen that I need to work only 2 days for that I can pretty much afford it I suppose.
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 10 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Ah ok, I live in the U.S. and go to college, which I pay for myself so it isn't as easy. But sounds like its fun.
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Well it doesn't need to be expensive, go to another state, I always loosen up when im not in my homeplace, hope the same will apply to you :)
[–]wwwsssppp 1 point2 points3 points 10 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Don't like clubs? Don't go! The most interesting people I've met have been in cafés and dj bars because that's what I like.
You can easily go out alone. Go to your favourite places and chat to the staff. They want to make sure you're having a good time and later on will introduce you to other regulars.
In short, go where you want to go.
I will try that out, its definitely a different perspective on going out alone. Thanks for the advice!
[–]ZephyrBluu 1 point2 points3 points 10 years ago* (2 children) | Copy Link
You say you're a not a club guy, but you've never been to a bar. I understand that's possible but it seems a bit weird to me you've been to clubs but not bars... Or do you just think you're not a club guy?
This is going to sound even more annoying but I have been to a club for like 10 minutes with a friend. It was dead, I felt awkward, no one was doing anything so I just didn't want to go to clubs after that. We left cause she had to get home but I just didn't seem to like the vibe there, I go to raves and have fun but I'm drunk there so its different. Clubs just seem like I need to know how to dance, pick up girls to dance with and with my luck I will get rejected a lot, and I don't really see any other point in going, especially by myself.
Maybe its a dumb way to think about it but I also am not the party type, I prefer being with a group of friends that I know or being one on one with a girl. I just don't feel like I fit in with all that, except for raves when I'm drunk. I've been to one sober and it was the most annoying thing for me.
[–]ZephyrBluu 0 points1 point2 points 10 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
So, you rocked up to a club that was dead, you weren't in state and didn't try to get in state and because other people weren't doing stuff you didn't do stuff either.
IMO drinking does one thing more than anything: reduce inhibitions. Saying the rave was "the most annoying thing for you" doesn't actually describe what part of it you didn't like. Loud music? People packed together dancing? That's what I love about clubs. You have to actually immerse yourself into whatever you're doing before you can say you don't like it.
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