How to Meet Women You Have Chemistry With

DerpishGambino · 2016-06-02T17:01:07+00:00

Man, another great post. Chemistry is something I haven't fully understood, but this provided a lot of insight I never would've come across normally!

gradcasanova · 2016-06-02T15:51:39+00:00

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EcoFounder · 2016-06-02T14:01:52+00:00

Another great article. At one time or another I've struggled with all of the pitfalls you outline. Especially "Mistaking Chemistry with Compatibility"

mental_diarrhea · 2016-06-02T19:32:56+00:00

Great article! I wish I could read it six months ago. The part about compatibility would save me a lot of time and beer money.

gradcasanova · 2016-06-02T15:05:05+00:00

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2016-06-02T21:10:24+00:00

You end up comparing every girl to your idealized version of this past girl (which is impossible to match up to), and when she doesn’t match up, you write her off, or don’t try to cultivate a deeper connection.

Many of my friends and clients have had similar experiences.

Ughhhh me too. I've been dating women off and on for the last 2 years since my last serious long term girlfriend who was amazing. Intelligent, motivated, fit, great family, similar ideas of what's fun, great values, confident from her job and life experiences, amazing sexual chemistry and I basically threw it away because she had a kid even after we had been dating for years. Now, I don't expect to get back with her, I haven't since we broke up. However, I compare all the women since to her. This is driving me crazy and it's hard to let go. I don't think I idealize the relationship even now, we had our problems but communication was great.

I realized I ruined things for a stupid reason but the current woman I'm dating doesn't even come close and I question why I'm even with her if it's not what I want. None of the other women I've dated have come close. I know what I want out of a woman and it's difficult to find here and I'm most likely in the wrong spot to meet the type of woman I like and want.

What I'm saying is that while I've let her go as an individual it's really difficult to let go of what I want out of a woman and relationship because she raised the bar. Any suggestions? I feel like to give up on what I want from a woman/relationship would be a personal defeat and a slight to what I bring to the table. I'd rather be alone than settle, maybe that's stupid?

Definitely going to spend some more time with the quit your shitty job article as it's something I'd love to do to be able to spend more time with family and friends be it locally or internationally.

Napoleon__BonerParty · 2016-06-02T21:18:44+00:00

lol p-rot is on reddit

Title	How to Meet Women You Have Chemistry With
Author	gradcasanova
Upvotes	222
Comments	14
Date	June 2, 2016 1:49 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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