Virgin and it's starting to snowball and I can't get it off my mind, negative feedback loops

nike747 · 2016-06-04T21:40:13+00:00

I'm saying this in the most respectful way to help you out dude. You have been so inside your head that you are literally driving yourself crazy.

Quit worrying about fucking someone. It's not a big deal. It's just sex. The more value and more you think about it, the more pressure you put on yourself and it's not going to happen.

Just go out and have fun and never get wasted to where you can even talk to them/pick up on stuff. Just get a few drinks, loosen up and have fun.

When you have fun and lose yourself in the moment, everything will fall into place. Trust me. You won't see it coming.

Aeon199 · 2016-06-05T04:26:59+00:00

I dress well, people tell me I'm in shape, I have friends (even if I think they could dial it back on the virgin shaming), do well in school, multiple groups of friends invite me to come do shit all the time

Not so much for you, but for everyone who preaches socializing, self-improvement, and getting in shape.. how does this guy's problem look to you?

It tends to make me think what is being taught here is lot of delusional optimism (no offense, though.)

Because clearly what you preach doesn't work for this guy, who claims to have everything women want.

Obviously a loser in his 30s just trying to get started on this stuff probably stands no chance.

And I hate to be an optimist one night, come back as a pessimist the second night: but when I see posts like this, it depresses the hell out of me.

Title	Virgin and it's starting to snowball and I can't get it off my mind, negative feedback loops
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Comments	3
Date	June 4, 2016 8:28 PM UTC (10 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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