I tried out the "Do you want to kiss me?" for the first time last night. This is a girl that I met last weekend through mutual friends. She is new to town and looking to expand her friends group. I’ve been showing her around. I foolishly positioned myself into the friends zone by keeping it too light and not showing enough intent early on. Last night though I was on a mission to show her more of my actual intent.

The first bar we were at there was some Kino via hand on back. I brought up a few things we had talked about the first time we met and expanded deeper into those topics. She was resistant at first about me buying the first round, but I convinced her it would be quicker. We made moves to the next bar where I had a pretty big/fun crew at.

I introduced her to the crew and we mingled with the group for an hour or so. She was having a blast. We found ourselves sitting at the bar together (I just finished reading The Game). I kind of knew that I could’ve just let the night play out organically and I would’ve have probably ended up closing anyways, but I didn’t. I have no lack confidence. There was a lull in the conversation. My hand was already on her leg.

I asked her “Do you want to kiss me?” She was very hesitant. I know why too, because she thinks I’m a cool dude and wants to keep me as a friend, but I was on a mission tonight.

She was smiling from ear to ear, saying “ummmm” and “but I want to keep you as my friend.” I let her squirm for 10 seconds or so. And chimed in with the “Well I didn’t say you could kiss me, I just asked if you wanted too. It just seemed like something was on your mind.” Textbook. We laughed and moved on. It accomplished want I wanted, it clearly showed her my actual intent.

The rest of the night went exactly as planned. We went to a third bar with dancing. Kissing and touching starting happening, then I closed when the lights turned on. Success.

Later that night she told me that it’s not the first time a guy has asked her that and said it wasn’t original. I wasn’t trying to be original though. I was trying to be ballsy and intentional.

The question is was the “Do you want to kiss me” necessary? Should I have just let the night happen organically without this preplanned line? If girls hear that all the time, does it make me sound lame?