Need some life advice

BuyerOfCoins · 2016-07-24T18:18:11+00:00

Face it, you dont have your life lined up right now. You have to make sure you do before you start approaching. Feel GOOD about yourself before you want to share your happyness and joy with others.
Get your life straightened out, set goals. These will help you to see where you want to go. Take a pen right now and write down 5 things you want to achieve in your life and a 0-10 # of where you are with achieving them right now.
The friends at work, ask them if they wanna hang out later!
Get hobbies, what do you like? Martial arts? Baseball? Hell, knitting? Find a group in your neighborhood and sign up for it. This way you will not only enjoy the hobby but also make a couple of friends in the process.

Honestly, online dating wont work for 90% of the dudes whatever someone says. Why? Most women build attraction face2face instead of online (where they get loaded with messages).

Whatever you do man, moving back or not, do what seems best to YOU.

Big_TX · 2016-07-25T05:43:03+00:00

You have to break out of the limiting feeling that gives you the limiting belief. I promis you you can change fields. Try sales ? Them move into a better form of sales. Then get a job in a start up. Go the extra mile and get more work skills and experience. Then if you cant move up in that company you can move to an established company with a good resume with lots of skills.

You can get certified in other stuff as well. I think the class to become a project manager is $7,000 and some states have programs to help with paying for that. That makes pretty good money. Then you will have a form of management on your resume. There are some seraiously overpaid management positions out there.

You can go to trade school and learn a trade. Many of them pay well. It is much less expensive than college and only takes 2 years.

You go to the gym, you could become a personal trainer, the certification costs like $400. At 24 hour fitness the personal trainers make $25 an hours. And there are much better paying gigs than 24 hour fitness.

Once you give yourself a rough direction in life you will will feel 1,000,000 times better. And way less depressed. I promise. Feeling helpless and hopeless are HUGE parts for depression.

mrpoopybutthole2 · 2016-07-24T19:15:50+00:00

time to time people get lost in the thrill of it all. you are in a time in your life where everything you see ends up being negative. try and move up in life by trying out new things like if you love animals work at an animal shelter and if your interested in a subject go after it. everyone is always worried about the age they complete their goal and its definitely nice to finish it at a certain time in your life but dont bring yourself down if you find what you truly love later in life. and your gf dont put the stresses of life on her either she doesnt know you as well as you know you. she is there to love and care for you and if you dont feel it then thats when you should talk about it otherwise realize thats when you are being needy and insecure it makes her feel like shes not good enough to live to your expectations and no one should feel like that in a relationship. work, go to community college and get whatever you need done to follow a path you will enjoy in the future. maybe this is a time to focus on yourself but dont ppush away ppl who are trying to help.

failly · 2016-07-24T22:01:42+00:00

Unless I go back to college (which I can't afford, not that I'd know what I'd want to do) I can't get a job in a different field.

Your job is something you can't change, for now. And if you keep being undecisve even if you have the money for college, you will still be 'stuck'. Since you can't change this you just have to suck it up. Did you get a new boss or got something major changed at work? I feel you don't like your job anymore because all the other different factors (no friends, no girlfriend).

I've been trying cold approaching but I keep getting rejected. I even tried okcupid again but I can't ever get a solid date.

You are already putting more work into this than 90% of all the guys. You don't have to beat yourself up for this. Keep fucking trying.

I have no idea how to meet new friends (I met the other 2 through work).

I know how you can meet new friends, and you also know damn well how. This has been said a lot, but that shows how effective it is; go find a hobby or sport to practice. You will not only find new friends, you will also meet girls.

Not to sound like a dick, but you have a job and have the balls to cold approach. 795 million people hope they have the first one, since they go to sleep without eating a thing. You have put yourself on the receiving end of these 'bad things' because you let your hapiness be defined by your girlfriend for the most part, and for some part by your friends. You need to shift your brain and work on your inner game.

Good luck man.

Title	Need some life advice
Author	MrPizzaBoy
Upvotes	3
Comments	7
Date	July 24, 2016 4:16 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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