One thing I noticed here is a lot of people think a lot of girls can have "any guy". Seemingly hot girls are rejected all the time. The difference is how guys reject women is as subtle as how women show interest in guys so most don't even know they rejected them. (IE: if you are at a bar and a girl gave you a smile and you ultimately said no, she's too x I'm not going to approach then you rejected her).

If you learn how and how often you are rejecting women then you can begin fixing that and taking action on the rejection points instead of letting them follow through. Also you will begin being able to relate better with women and you'll stop seeing it as an impossible mountain to climb and instead a difficult landing that you both are trying to accomplish and having the same troubles to accomplish.