Feeling like I finally reached expert level. How can I help you guys? Ask Me Stuff

whichwouldyouprefer · 2016-08-29T03:20:11+00:00

Anonymous PM #1

Question: My last semester of college is tomorrow. What advice do you have to give me when it comes to approaching either on campus or at bars?

Answer: Man I just graduated college, so I know the exact position you are in. You gotta ask yourself "What is #1 most important to me in this last semester?" I answered "Getting laid every single week", when I posed the same to myself. So I went chasing for it hard, and made it happen. My advice when it comes to the approaches itself, you gotta be having a blast while doing it. Like literally I would have the biggest smile on my face after any approach, even hard/mean rejections. Do and say what you want at all times. Not gonna lie to you my objective was psychotic and it fucking hurt at times. But it also felt so fuckin incredible to be with these ladies. It takes an incredible amount of will power to go out and try to hit on girls on those nights where you feel fuckin tired, anti social, introverted, and should probably be writing a paper or something. Use the pain to springboard you into something great.**

Aeon199 · 2016-08-29T05:35:14+00:00

Can a guy still get girls if he's a loser, with little-to-no social circle? To make matters worse, I'm in my 30s and have very few if any achievements, and still low-prospects.

I am autistic with ADD, though, so that explains a lot of it. The rest--the part where I'm accountable--is apathy and fear. The apathy because I reasonably can expect nothing but rejection, the fear because if I'm socially awkward, I might embarrass myself or seem creepy.

I'm guessing you'd suggest "achieve stuff, get a good job, and so on, first" but this is not going to happen. I also cannot be a fun "people person" unless it's in short bursts, when the stars are aligned. I have to be realistic. I need to know if I can navigate outside the mainstream model of success and find other ways to attract women.

whichwouldyouprefer · 2016-08-29T17:51:33+00:00

Anonymous PM #2

Question: I'm in college, and I'm a sophomore. I have what seems like a strong crush on a girl that I had a brief introduction to at the beginning of last school year. We did a small group project together and didn't talk after that. I'd like to think that I've caught her giving me glances on more than a few occasions, but I'm not sure if she was looking at me or if it even means anything. I don't see her that often, and when I do, it's usually in the cafeteria when she's eating with friends. I don't know how/when/where to approach her, given those circumstances. I'm not even sure how I'd initiate a conversation at this point.

Answer: She was probably looking at you. What was it like while you were doing the group project, what she giving you vibes? As far as how to tackle the approach, where/when: I would just go straight up to her in the cafeteria even though she's still with all of her friends. Trust me bro, girls don't get hit on in that sort of manner unless they are at a club, so you'll be coming with with more element of surprise than the fuckin NYPD SWAT team. What's gonna happen is as soon as you show up to the table, everyone of her friends is gonna go silent while they listen to you spit your game, so be ready for that. Open with a "Yooooo what's good <girl's name>". Bring up your last group project, ask her how shes been, normal questions that friends would ask each other had you not seen each other in a while. Say something to the effect of "What are you doing tomorrow night?" Be forward while still extremely gentleman like. ALTERNATIVELY, you can wait to approach her on her own when she leaves her friends, just keep an eye on her from a distance. I'd prefer the group approach if you consistently only find her with friends though. The group approach gives you: 1) the validation of her friends (or disapproval, just depends) 2) quick results (this won't take more than 1-2 min, fast and painless) 3) experience with talking to large groups of girls 4) in my opinion, a greater odds of getting her number The isolated approach can still give you great results in this scenario that you described, but I fear if you have to WAIT to sort of follow her around til she is by herself, you will plan your conversation in your head with her too much, or you'll get way more nervous. I know, everything that I wrote sounds so simple on paper. I know real life might not be like this. Good luck though buddy, the feeling is familiar. From what you told me though I think you have a solid chance of getting this girl out on a date with you.

Anomalous_anomaly · 2016-08-29T01:23:19+00:00

Could I PM you tomorrow? I've probably got a ton of questions.

hobbygod · 2016-08-29T01:58:31+00:00

Any tips for someone who's just shy in general? I feel like I run out of things to say whenever I work up the courage to talk to someone new, which isn't often. And cold openings are rough for.me too.

snip3r77 · 2016-08-29T03:23:14+00:00

Eye interaction? How to see if the girl is interested ( pupils dilation ) ?

NicCageForPresident · 2016-08-29T02:11:39+00:00

What are your qualifications?

Most importantly, how many girls have you had sex with from cold approach?

"Girls are easy" is too vague

Title	Feeling like I finally reached expert level. How can I help you guys? Ask Me Stuff
Author	whichwouldyouprefer
Upvotes	3
Comments	15
Date	August 29, 2016 12:59 AM UTC (9 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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