How to Build More Dominance?

G_Refined · 2016-08-30T03:48:47+00:00

A part of me fears being seen as a harasser, part of me really respects women and their opinions.

These are good things, you should never want to be seen as a harasser, and you should ALWAYS respect women. It comes down to being able to read social cues and if you ever think you could be crossing the line, don't do it.

With that being said, the point of escalation is a gradual buildup so if a girl gives you a hard no in the beginning you need to chat her up more and build more comfort and rapport and then test the water again.

For example, lets say you're in the club talking to a girl and you decide to grab her hand and say "lets dance" and she pulls away and says "no, I don't want to dance" but she keeps talking to you, you can keep building comfort and rapport, but when you go to escalate this time, offer your hand to her and ask her, "are you sure you don't want to dance?" You respect that she didn't want to dance the first time and give her the option without being pushy.

If she declines again then move on. The same is true for all levels of escalation, if she gives you a no, whether direct or implied, stay at your current level of escalation, build more comfort and then give her the option to let you escalate.

For example, let's say you are dancing and you go for a kiss and she turns away but keeps dancing with you, kiss her neck while you are dancing, then after awhile tell her "I want to kiss you so badly" and see if she starts to lean in for it or tells you no again. Rinse and repeat until she gives you a "yes" to take it to the next level. In my opinion it keeps the pressure on while being respectable and not to pushy.

Paladin6596 · 2016-08-30T23:10:08+00:00

I know what you're talking about and I feel the same way often. If it's a hard no and I would not pursue it further. But it all depends on how she's saying it. If she says it kind of softer way it's probably OK to be a little persistent. You really just have to be able to read between the lines.

lauradeebus · 2016-08-30T15:23:20+00:00

Oh dear God. Very attractive and successful female here who has stumbled upon this sub.

No means no means no. Yes, some girls who say no mean yes. But the vast majority of women who say no, mean no. And when we say no and you continue your advances, you are disrespecting our wishes. Not only that, but think about it... Men have a natural, physical advantage over women. Men have a tendency to act in ways that threaten us. Every woman has been on the receiving end of a physically threatening man(yes, all women) . So when we giggle and say no, perhaps we are trying to de-escalate a situation so it doesn't lead to a threatening situation.

Yes, you may be able to win over the rare woman who means yes but you are threatening the security for every woman who means no. At that point, if you continue with your endeavors then you are saying, "I care more about getting my dick wet tonight than the security of another female." and that is wrong.

Edit: keep the down votes coming. This is why you all need this sub because you don't know how women actually think :) keep the circle jerk of awful advice going and let me know how it works out for ya!

Title	How to Build More Dominance?
Author	Intro2Extro
Upvotes	3
Comments	8
Date	August 30, 2016 1:38 AM UTC (9 years ago)
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