What have you noticed (from experience) works with attracting, and bonding with someone you like?

recyclablebanthas · 2016-10-11T05:09:54+00:00

I'm going to suggest a paradigm shift here. It might seem like I'm being picky, but word choice can matter.

I contend that it's not so much that a guy unilaterally attracts or bonds with a girl he likes. It's more like a mutual discovery process. Take these two common examples:

You meet Girl #1 and hit it off immediately. She's into what you say almost from the word go and she's open to touch or touching you within hours. And it just comes together.
You meet Girl #2. You go in attentive and ready to adapt and have a good time. But it all lands with a dull thud. You're getting one word answers. And escalation? Forget about it: she recoils anytime you get close. As the night wears on, it's clear it ain't going anywhere.

Now a lot of guys will completely dismiss the first example because they didn't feel like they had to do anything and they'll take it personally with Girl #2 as if it were their fault. But this is missing the point.

Really what game is, is being able to put your best foot forward into the discovery process. This is a mutual process. And one way to go into it as strong as possible is to know what you're looking for and to focus on getting at what makes the girl tick: her emotions and motivations.

And of course, kino escalation while one on one with her.

Zetland · 2016-10-11T07:55:26+00:00

Having lots of interests helps a lot. I listen to tonnes of podcasts and try to watch as many cult films as I can. Even when I was living in London, I tried to walk the entire city so that I had something to say about each bit.

Woujo · 2016-10-11T12:49:16+00:00

You can't make somebody like you. Girls usually either like you or they don't, independently of what you do. It's usually just based on what the girl is into. Some girls just want a 7 foot black guy with a huge dick and no matter how well you "game" them, they won't care. Other girls are into weird Asian guys and will ignore NBA players to run to the weird Asian. "Game," as I understand it, is just a process of presenting yourself to her and not doing anything to fuck it up. That's why I see "game" as more of a series of "don'ts" rather than "dos." The hard part is approaching so that you're technically around her but once you're there, just play it cool.

monkeyman114 · 2016-10-12T04:59:00+00:00

Conversational skills. Looks get your foot in the door but if you are gifted with words then its pretty easy.

Title	What have you noticed (from experience) works with attracting, and bonding with someone you like?
Author	Spaceman0ddity
Upvotes	3
Comments	6
Date	October 11, 2016 4:47 AM UTC (9 years ago)
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