Does everything else really just fall into place once you start approaching?

nonsass · 2016-10-19T18:32:01+00:00

Well it certainly hasn't 'fell into place' with me so far (and a fair few others) but I guess it kinds of depends on your starting point. If you're a super sociable, confident, handsome dude, I bet one would maybe learn faster.

I'm on maybe 250 approaches so far. Still often get rejected after the open, but it seems to completely depend on the girl rather than me. I might approach and get told to 'go away' straight away. I tihnk 'right, never approach like that again'', but then, I might just try one more time and appraoch in the exact same way, and then I get a warm reception. Then i'm like 'So, have I learnt anything or not?'' It's kind of impossible to learn from 'mistakes' because of this. There's not just all of the variables concerning you, but the other person as well!

But I never understand quite how one expects to just 'get better with practice' with something like this. If you run out of interesting things to say in your first 5 interactions, how would your mind suddenly start to invent things to say down the line? I think yuo'd need to keep coming back to forums/books etc to try to fix your sticking points as opposed to expecting them to somehow auto correct through sheer perseverance?

I think getting your life together could take years and years in some cases, but i doubt you want to wait 4 years before ever appraoching a girl? Besides, there are lots of people who have zero going on in their lives, and they still manage to get laid, so use them people as your inspiration for now

Murfdigidy · 2016-10-19T19:56:12+00:00

Good thought, obviously it depends. Ask yourself the tough questions, why do I not make close connections with people. Am I afraid of commitment, do i genuinely not care if I have friends or not? Am I really as outgoing as I think I am, do I not give a shit about anyone but myself. So on and so on. Sounds to me your issue doesn't stem from anxiety which alot of men deal with yours seems to be emotional connection. Which isnt necessarily key to seduction but it can be, with that said any relationship really needs emotional connection in order for it to dwell.

I see your issue being more macro than about seduction. If you have no close friends there's a reason for that, again ask yourself why? I'm not saying you're a bad person but in order to be good at seduction you have to be good at making friends or close acquaintances.

Work on aspects of the game that tailor to making girls emotional, getting them attracted to you. Doing a thousand approaches won't work, studying what makes a girl tick is key. How do I become sexy so that girls want to be with me?

I'll always maintain the #1 aphrodisiac for all women is confidence, but 2nd to that is the how to be the attractive man people want to hang out with.

Im not sure it's particular to this discussion but its a great read is Models by Mark Manson. Check it, can't go wrong

Title	Does everything else really just fall into place once you start approaching?
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Date	October 19, 2016 6:22 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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