Hooked up with a good friend, says she doesn't want a relationship but seems down to fool around. How do I handle that?

donkeybuns · 2016-10-24T16:45:27+00:00

Sorry everyone who's answered so far has been rude.

You really need to evaluate how you feel about this girl. If you genuinely think you can handle casual without getting attached, then go for it. Otherwise you're just setting yourself up for an awkward end to a friendship.

You have the right idea looking into other options. Keep doing that.

cant_fapula · 2016-10-24T20:03:20+00:00

Keep having sex with her, keep being friends with her. What is a girlfriend? It's a friend you are close with and have sex with.

I think she will get feelings for you sooner or later if you're having sex and doing cute shit together (cuddling, cooking dinner, etc). The most important thing is that you let her come to that conclusion. She already said no to a relationship so don't push it. Play it cool, or she will see that you're too needy to handle just sex and cut you off completely.

You can have this intention, but don't have high hopes or it will crush you. Just keep doing what you're doing, see other girls too. In time she'll either be completely cool with it (doubt it) or she'll get jealous and want to be exclusive. Just my 2 cents.

JF803 · 2016-10-24T16:43:07+00:00

Definitely just take the friends with benefits route and be thankful. You can mess around with other girls and get to keep a cool friend you can hook up with

Octodab · 2016-10-24T16:57:12+00:00

Grab her by the pussy

globallearner · 2016-10-24T18:16:26+00:00

I had a very similar situation recently. If you have feelings for her you will most likely end up overcommitting. She doesn't want a relationship and engaging her might end up making you desire her more, and drive her away. Just be aware of the oneitis feelings, they can cloud your judgment.

2016-10-24T19:06:50+00:00

Just fool around Dont get attached, in fact see other girls while your at it... Abundance mentality

2016-10-26T04:08:00+00:00

You have what most guys dream about, sex without attachments.

jmanc123 · 2016-10-24T17:08:50+00:00

Being a realist here. (not being rude) I've been in that situation when I first started out in the game. My truest advice would be to just leave her.(harsh I know) If your feeling this feeling and she said no, she will always be in that mindset and you will always want a relationship. If you tend to bring up that you want a relationship alot, she will become more and more disinterested in you. That, or this is the first time you'll have to train yourself to disconnect and just keep it purely sexual. Either way, good luck on your endeavor!

Andreas-Lubitz · 2016-10-24T16:15:34+00:00

You are the girl and she is the guy.

Octodab · 2016-10-24T15:55:25+00:00

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Title	Hooked up with a good friend, says she doesn't want a relationship but seems down to fool around. How do I handle that?
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Upvotes	19
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Date	October 24, 2016 2:29 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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