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[–]kalolilo 1 point2 points3 points 9 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
[–]b0nurd0nur 0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (7 children) | Copy Link
The other guy said some stuff, but IMO it all falls under two categories: being funny, or being interesting. IMO, it's hard to be interesting without it looking like you're just bragging, or coming off as pretentious. Maybe if you were already talking about something and you offered an interesting opinion.
I think it's better just to be making her laugh, and associate you with good feelings. Most guys aren't actually funny, so if you make them laugh, you'll be unique.
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[–]b0nurd0nur 0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
Hmmm. Well I'm not in your position, so I don't want to be ignorant and insensitive. But, I do believe humor is a lot more teachable/learnable than people think. For example, if you listen to comedians talk about their craft, they go about refining it a very analytic way.
Not to play up a stereotype, but are you good at math? It's relevant.
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[–]b0nurd0nur 0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Hm, I guess. Still, I think it's very learnable, even if you're at a disadvantage.
Well, I brought up math because even if you can't empathize with people on that level, you can view humor as a function. You give an input (a joke of some sort), and you get an output (laughter or not). That's something you can empirically gauge, even if you don't really understand why it makes them laugh.
Sorry, I don't really know your situation. Do you have friends you joke with? Do you find anything funny in general?
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[–]b0nurd0nur 0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I guess what I'm trying to get at is, I'd admit that the problem is really difficult if you didn't find anything funny, but you do apparently. They're doing something that you recognize as funny, which means you can figure it out. I'm sure it's really difficult, but you can do it with practice.
Well, as someone who does math as a large part of my job, and I think it's fair to say I'm good at making people laugh, let me say that logic is a large part of humor, and there's a decent amount of creativity involved in math work. For example, a lot of humor falls under the category of irony/hypocrisy/paradox/etc, which is basically a logical contradiction. It's (kind of) funny if the fire department station catches on fire, because they're the ones who usually put out fires and should logically least have that problem.
What I was trying to say before is that humor can very much be a logical, analytic process. Sure, creativity helps. Maybe try this, I dunno. Watch one of those comedians you like, and when you find yourself laughing, try to figure out why you laughed. Then, try and emulate the theme of that humor (not the exact joke).
Well, if you don't have friends, I think that's a problem you should solve first. Girls/love/sex are great and all but friends are far more important. I've had a few friends with asperger's who have managed to figure out something that works for them. I mean, what do you find personally interesting in life? That's a good way to connect with people, mutual interest.
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