Don't get me wrong, in real life, I want to win, I want to succeed, I want to be strong. I have a fairly good career. But when it comes to sex, I would love to be dominated, I would love to give control to my partner. I have had couple of girlfriends, and we had great chemistry and everything, but I never told this side to anyone of them. Eventually we broke but due to different reasons.

I am a very average looking, short guy. Pick up works for me, but only sometimes. I can lead when going on dates and I like that as well. I can actually lead her in most of our relationship as well, but when it comes to sex, I know I will want her to dominate me. This has always been my fantasy, and this is what would make me truly happy.

However, most women are submissive, as we know it. If I show this side of me, I feel they will be turned off. Should I try my utmost to get rid of this fantasy [if it is even possible to] or be honest with women?

Also, are their countries where women are more dominant - like Germany?