Hey,

I've recently come to a dead end with the next matter. I've had this plate for about 6 months. Very smooth, no drama, no major shit tests, nice sex drive, not very time consuming. For the first 4 months we met, had dinner/lunch, fucked and slept. Not necessarily in that order.

During the last 2 months I had no time to spin other plates. Since this one was good, I spent a little more time with her. We went on a 5 day trip as a goodbye, since she was moving to some other country.

The thing is, I'm not attached at all. I've spun plates when I possible without regrets, but she's really into me, like in love I guess. Turns out she's young, therefore naïve. Now she's abroad she acts like and expects a relationship. I'm not buying it, BUT I might be moving to this country for work-related reasons withing the next semester. And again she's really not that time consuming, we speak on the phone like 30 minutes every 2-3 days. Plus, she'll be visiting my homecity twice the next 2 months.

The dilemma is as follows (formatting issues, every asterisk is a new line)

  • she thinks I'm into her, I'm not
  • she thinks a distance LTR is possible, I'm not
  • she thinks I'm one in a kind. I agree somehow but to me she's one of many, despite being a surprisingly non problematic plate
  • I don't like playing with somebody else's feelings, specialy if this person has been noble, sincere to me. But my RPers brain tissues are shouting "she's just a woman, so she'll end up behaving like one!!."

So, I guess I should tell her it's over? and when? I guess I should have done it already but we had plans to meet in the short term.