how do you personally escalate?

MindsEvolve · 2016-12-20T17:22:28+00:00

It seems like you're keying in to a lot of good concepts, but pulling WAY too much information from a sample size of this one single incident. It sounds like you had a good flow, but something wasn't clicking. Try your best to think about what was going on from HER perspective. If you've actually developed a smooth escalation strategy, then you don't need to worry that something was your fault. Just keep improving, and recognize that sometimes girls are just not in the place, and if you're not doing the work of building a steady pipeline for yourself, you're going to get upset over single incidents like this when there's nothing else going on in your week.

A smooth escalation strategy might be to:

A. Use the cube to build comfort and get more opportunities to ask questions about themselves (http://www.getinhermind.com/sure-fire-routines/five-minute-personality-test-the-cube)

B. Once, comfort is built, ask them if you can hold their hand for a second, and go into any hand kino routine, or don't. Just say you wanted to hold their hand for a second, and then see if they react positively. It could literally be anything, as long as you have the concepts there.

I'm hoping that us guys will feel more comfortable asking girls for feedback when things aren't working. Nothing to lose. I know it's hard because it feels embarrassing as if "you've lost" but getting feedback to make it a win next time is a total win. PM me if you want to let me know more about your current situation and I can give you some individual tips.

t1mman · 2016-12-20T19:07:47+00:00

I think the key with kino is to “ask and listen” in non-verbal way. You are “asking” if it’s ok for you to move into her “bubble”, for say, where your knees or your arms can touch, and you’re “listening” by being aware if she stays close, moves in, or pull out, the way she “answer” non-verbally. You escalate then with a hand on the leg, for example or the lower back, or the leg touching in a semi-aware fashion. Sometimes you can get a bad reaction; you could retreat and try something else. When you put an arm around the back of her shoulder, for example, she could feel threaten because she was once attacked like this, and associate this with a bad mood. If it happens, you pull back, wait and retry something else, like putting her hand on your leg for example. And on, and on.

We (as human, and somewhat animal) escalade for two things: To ask non-verbally and to built sexual tensions. So you can’t go and rush into those things and it’s always good to pull back once in a while (push and pull, basically) just so it’s more “playful”.

There is also a shitload of non-verbal cues to look for when you are close, exposing her neck, everything around the lips, the “shy” look, the direction of the foot, the way she is directed toward you, all those things are “signs”. That doesn’t mean she’ll hump you in the stall thought! Just her subconscious mind telling it’s attracted by you / what you are doing / saying. The key, again, is to LISTEN and be aware.

Now, if you want to SAY something, a flattery for example, something on what she somewhat controls are always better than complimenting her genetics. Like telling her she has great eyes can be fun, telling her you love the way she looks at you is waayy better. Telling her it’s a great necklace she is wearing (and taking it in your hand while you do), for example. Telling her she’s cute is somewhat impersonal, makes women believe you’re in just for her look and you have no interest in what she chose, what she does.

Always remember, seduction is about learning to know someone and if they fit your criteria, not only getting laid or “closing”.

Hope this helps you!!

Title	how do you personally escalate?
Author	famineofcrows
Upvotes	1
Comments	3
Date	December 20, 2016 10:37 AM UTC (9 years ago)
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