How Can I Be More Relaxed?

HU4R0LLz · 2017-01-01T22:55:43+00:00

You need to work on being present. As in living in this very moment. Being in your head takes you out of the moment. So every time your mind starts running rampant. Tell yourself that you need to be present. Think about your toes. I don't know if it works for everyone, but for me, it makes me aware of my body. Then if I notice any tenseness, I work my way up starting from my toes, legs, abs, back shoulders, arms and hands. Take a deep breathes while I'm doing this. Don't worry no one will take notice when if sitting you lean back, kick your legs out and take up a more relaxed pose. Or if standing you spread your legs apart and shift your shoulders to a more open position and relax your arms.

Also work on not worrying when it comes to saying the right thing, or trying to enter the discussion at the right time. I don't know your mind works, but I know I did have a problem with always searching my mind to find the right thing to say at the right time which pretty much lead me to not saying nothing at all. I would just sit there while everyone else was talking. Know that it's okay to speak up and that no one is judging you. If they are, so what, fuck them. Does it really matter or affect you? If they are your friends then it doesn't matter. If the social setting is among strangers and they have a problem with 'you' then those aren't the people that you want to make friends with in the first place. Don't hold back on the account of fear. Most people live their lives in fear. It is a very bad way to go through life. Live in the moment. Just be.

CaptainFate · 2017-01-01T21:17:51+00:00

The best thing to do is to work on your listening skills and your observation skills. Pay complete attention to the current event/ the person that is speaking that you get out of your head. Stop yourself from thinking of what to say before the other person has stopped speaking. Quit being so selfish and worrying about how you look/ sound etc. and instead pay absolute attention to how others are speaking, acting, and moving.

monkeyman114 · 2017-01-01T23:23:44+00:00

If you have mommy issues, get them out of the way first.

Title	How Can I Be More Relaxed?
Author	QNoble
Upvotes	3
Comments	5
Date	January 1, 2017 5:23 PM UTC (9 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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