Help me get started

SkorchZang · 2014-09-09T23:38:10+00:00

Dude, no. That's all wrong. Hold those ships in the harbor. Let me fix that up for you:

Crunch crunch, crunch. Grind grind. Coming out of my printer is the updated version:

" My goals atm:

Lift weights starting immediately. Religiously, in a deep meditative state, like my whole life depends on it (it does). Before and above anything else.
Build a network of industry and professional connections with talented people while I am in college. Master my craft, above and beyond anything the degree calls for. When I get out, it will all be outdated; my practical self-taught knowledge, enterpreneur work ethic, and my connections will not be.
Enjoy boxing and/or wrestling classes in my free time. Explore other manly hobbies and passions. Take risks and come out independently victorious in my endeavours.
Fuck plenty of cute college girls, so I can finally forget the dreaded "relationship" word from my former blue pill brainwashing regimen. I am the gatekeeper of my commitment, any girl who wants to "relationship" me will have to work for it and prove herself over months and years. Otherwise, they get nothing, except for a good time atop my dick. I will never commit to a girl just because she wanted it, and I will never settle for run of the mill man-shaming, naggy, obese emotional parasites, continuing my search for the loyal, sweet, and sexy woman of quality with whom I may one day want to start a family.

"

Eqvilibrivm · 2014-09-09T23:30:45+00:00

From your list, your first priority should be your health. Your health affects how you feel about yourself and life in general. You can read everything there is to know about girls and self-improvement, but if you're inside all day and eating poorly, you may as well not have read a single sentence. Working out at a gym is my first recommendation. If that is beyond your scope at present, do bodyweight exercises at home and go for a jog a couple of days per week.

I recommend you eat healthily, too. All of this goes hand in hand to make you feel better.

Personally, I would not make confronting some guy a priority. It sucks that you are bullied, but you cannot go back into the past and change it. You do not need to fight someone now in order to feel good about yourself. Honestly, letting stuff like this go will make you stronger in the long run. I speak from experience. As you feel better about yourself you will automatically respond to people differently. Work with who you are right now, in the present. Become the person you want to be in the future, rather than trying to fight how you were in the past, because that's a fight that can never be won.

Make friends and have an active social life. Find people who are positive to hang out with and distance yourself from people who drag you down. If the opportunity presents itself, find someone worse off than yourself and help or mentor them.

If your social skills need help, join a theatre group, or a public speaking club, or something similar. They will allow you to hang in the background for as long as you need, but they're great training.

Commit to your studies, but do not let it overtake your life. Steady as she goes, step by step. Find the right balance. Don't study like you have manic depression.

When the opportunities present themselves, approach girls and say hi. Put yourself out there. It will be scary at first, but easier and easier as you do it more often. Don't worry too much about what to say. You're not there to be their endless source of entertainment. If it gets awkward, close the conversation and move on. Rinse and repeat.

Find things you enjoy and do them, but choose productive things, like active hobbies, or music, or something outdoors, or a skill that will complement your degree.

drimadethistocomment · 2014-09-10T00:13:18+00:00

fuck a relationshit, better yourself

NewTRPer · 2014-09-11T00:26:32+00:00

Just adding some stuff on the relationship part: don't do it, date, be free etc. That has all been said.

Let me illustrate why you getting exactly what you want (i.e. the one with the sunset etc) would be a bad thing:

Lets assume you get someone who truly falls in love with you and wants to share with you the sunset etc. fantasy. A girl who loves you for you and who doesn't want to sleep around but simply be with you because you are the one true love of her life.

Now if this happens the very likely reason that this girl is with you is because she wants to latch on to a good long term provider as soon as possible. She might not even have recognized this on a conscious level but it will nevertheless be very probably true.

You will probably not manage to transition to an alpha with someone like this attached to you. She will then slowly establish a stranglehold on the relationship and things will slowly get worse and worse.

After a while you will reach a breaking point, realize that you are not happy in your relationship, force the red pill down your throat and make the changes you need to make to transition from still miserable beta provider good guy to a happy alpha, which is your goal after all.

At least that's what happened to me.

But you will have wasted more time not realizing your full potential.

So the tl'dr is: listen to what everyone said about relationships. If you want a LTR that is fine, but it should be on your terms and it should be the last thing on your list, not the first one.

rufusjonz · 2014-09-10T03:01:25+00:00

Keep your school game tight and focused on degree, but also have fun. A lot of people away from home mess up in college with all the freedom and flunk out for various reasons.

Health, exercise, being active, lose weight, eat better.

Work on social skills, building a group of friends, and meeting/flirting/dating women -- NOT a serious relationship with the first woman who comes along.

The bullying thing -- I would say just stand up for yourself now if you feel dis-respected. But it doesn't/shouldn't have to be escalated in a physical manner.

Title	Help me get started
Author	Eqvilibrivm
Upvotes	9
Comments	17
Date	September 9, 2014 11:17 PM UTC (11 years ago)
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