The situation is this:

Last night I had an ex hit me up on linkedin and then a half hour later i recieved a facebook message from her asking if i still worked in a specific geographical location doing the same line of work that ive done my whole life.

Now for context. We were together for 7 years. She was 18. I was 25. I took her virginity. Totally lived the dream with her bringing home women for me to enjoy with her throughout college. Sex on demand. Massages daily etc. in general she would make a lot of effort toward making me comfortable.

We have had zero contact for about 4 years now since i went ape shit on her when she told me she was seeing another guy about 3-4 months after the official break up where we would have coffee together and i would tell her about all of the chicks i had fucked since we broke up which didnt seem weird then but seems weird now.

Oh yeah at 18 she was a HB8. Smoking hot body of swimsuit model quality but face was like a 6. By the time we broke up HB7. Now four years later hb6?

I have a tiny bit of oneitus for this chick and what I want to know is...

How do I win? I want to come out on this interaction on top and leave her thinking about me.

What should my goal be at this point of first contact/interaction after years of radio silence?

Please help a brother out TRP! I appreciate you taking the time to read this.