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Breaking Rapport 101

Breaking rapport is speaking to a girl in a way that would seemingly push her away. It’s a polarizing statement that immediately sets you apart from 93.7% of other guys at the club. You’re expressing yourself and demonstrating that you’re not afraid to lose her, which is an attractive quality for a guy to have.

Let’s look at a few examples of what I’ve said at the club..

Girl from Alabama “Do you have permission to be in New York? Go back to your fucking state with your car on the cinder blocks in the front yard and your chained up dog. I bet that you have a pet goat and milk cows for fun.”

Girl from France “Go back to your country, we don’t like your kind here. I’ll bet you brought a bunch of baguettes with you in your suitcase because you don’t think ours are good enough. You sicken me.”

Girl from San Francisco “Your city is so lame, it has too many hills. I can’t believe you live there. You need to leave immediately and move to New York.”

Girl who is dancing “Excuse me, but you’re not allowed to dance here. I’m going to have to ask you to leave the club. I don’t want to be a dick, and I can see you’re having fun and all, but I’m just doing my job.”

Girl who is taking a selfie “I can’t believe you take so many selfies, you’re like your own paparazzi. If you turn out to be Instagram famous it’s over, it’ll never work between us.”

Girl who likes cats more than dogs “God, I can’t believe you like cats more. You’re probably going to end up as some cat lady who eats tuna fish all day and watches soap operas. I’d like to say I’ll visit you then but honestly, I probably won’t..”

Girl who is singing along to a Kanye song “Omg I can’t believe that you’re into Kanye. He ripped the mike out of Taylor Swifts hands which was totally not cool. I really like Taylor Swift, she seems so nice. I’ll bet you hate Taylor Swift don’t you, you’re crazy.”

One of my favorites: any girl wearing lots of black “Excuse me but you don’t have enough black on. In New York we wear black because it’s fashionable but you obviously didn’t get the memo. I’m going to have to ask you to leave.” – Points to exit of club..

Why it Works

Breaking rapport works well, however… It will get you blown out of sets. You will have girls tell you to “Fuck off”, “Get lost”, and “Eat a bag of shit”. That’s normal, but you do it because other girls will give you makeout eyes, laugh uncontrollably, say that you’re hilarious and hang onto your every word. Breaking rapport statements are polarizing so you can expect to receive unusually negative and unusually positive response. Here are a few of the reasons girls will like you..

  1. A breaking rapport statements shows her that you don’t care whether she leaves or stays. You’re expressing yourself and if she’s not into it she’s free to go.
  2. Breaking rapport statements will generate strong reactions, and by holding your frame you’ll quickly generate attraction. Girls get attracted when you’re unreactive and breaking rapport statements are a quick way to show what kind of guy you are.
  3. You find what you’re saying to be hilarious so you’re pumping your own state.
  4. You’re not filtering your words which means you’re not stuck in your head.
  5. You immediately stand out from other guys. She quickly knows that you’re something different and gets excited.

When to Use It

Breaking rapport isn’t a technique that you whip out. It’s not even something that you need to do in order to pull. It’s more of an expression of your own unique personality. Sometimes you’ll heap it on heavy, other times you’ll hardly use it. However, I notice that sometimes I use it more often..

  1. Within the first 5 minutes of the interaction, which achieves several things. It generates attraction early on and it also acts as a screening tool. If a girl reacts poorly when I start making obnoxious statements, I know that it’s time to find a different girl (my ideal girl is one who gives it right back to me).
  2. When a girl is in high spirts. Girls who are having fun and enjoying the party tend to respond the best to breaking rapport statements.
  3. When only my girl will hear it. I often break this rule, but in general I tend to avoid the more extreme breaking rapport statements if the friend is in earshot.

When to Not Use It

I scale it back in the following situations..

  1. If it’s a “lighter” environment (daytime, casual lounge, restaurant, well-lit beerhall, etc.). Breaking rapport statements, especially the extreme stuff, don’t fit so well in these situations where the girl is probably lower energy. That being said, if you sense that the girl is into it, then it can still work great. Some calibration required.
  2. After attraction is built. Breaking rapport statements are great to use early on because they build quick attraction. However, after you have that attraction the next step in the pull is building comfort. To that end you don’t want to use breaking rapport very much because it can push the girl away. At this stage if I do throw in a breaking rapport statement I’ll usually reel it back in by saying something like “I’m just kidding” or “Come back here, I actually think it’s cool that you’re from Alabama.”
  3. In church. Seriously, not recommended.

Thoughts on game

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Cheers.