Zero Fucks Given (A Guide to Deep Social Confidence pt 1) - Social Inception

a_nus · 2017-05-14T04:28:53+00:00

I've thought about the topic of caring about what others think of you, often. I used to think the goal was to not give a fuck, but as I've thought about it more, I've concluded that the goal is not to stop caring about what others think about you, but to care about the right things, at the right times, and at the right amount.

You must not care to a degree that it'll make you anxious, therefore rendering the care counterproductive. But you must care intelligently as to be able to guide your actions to increase the likelihood of meeting your goals within social situations.

"You care too much about what others think." Keywords: too much. We can all agree this is bad.

"You care about what others think." Though the wording difference is subtle, the underlying meaning changes completely.

I don't think any mentally stable human being can and should completely stop caring about what others think about them. The problem arises when you care too much, about the wrong things, or at illogical times. This type of counter-productive caring goes hand in hand with anxiety, which is the core issue here. Not caring in and of itself.

olronk · 2017-05-14T08:28:47+00:00

The biggest problem with the article is that unless you're already attractive, or in a very high position of power, none of this really applies to you.

No one cares whether or not you care about what they think of you. The only way people care about what you think is if you're already of some importance to them. ie: if you're their boss, or they'r attracted to you already. (neither of which are contingent on what kind of feeling you internally have)

So you can easily give zero fucks but also understand that the rest of the world will give zero fucks about you as well. And unless you're 100% ok with that then at some point you need to care too.

If you're the kind of person in this article that "gives zero fucks" don't complain when no one cares or wants to talk to you either.

So in end, as I said, unless you're already in a high social status, or are already attractive, none of the information in the article really applies.

Title	Zero Fucks Given (A Guide to Deep Social Confidence pt 1) - Social Inception
Author	imapickupartistmom
Upvotes	38
Comments	5
Date	May 13, 2017 11:20 PM UTC (9 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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