I've came across many posts with many replies saying things like only text to set up a date and that's it.

(Some backstory)

-For many weeks I took this advice and scheduled a couple of get-togethers (not dates) with a girl while I was at school. Keep in mind I only saw this girl twice a week during class an I didn't even sit close to her. Whenever I would schedule these get-togethers, it would be cool and fun but it would only be a brief interaction. I would try to continue conversations we had over text but she was very dry as I like to say over text. She would only seem a bit interested in me in real life and never over text. I felt as if she didn't really like me because of how she would text me so I moved on.

After texting that girl for the last time I had an urge to text this other girl I had never met but I only had known through Facebook. I started the conversation with a joke that came from a comment she had left on a Facebook post and we immediately started texting a lot to each other. We were both having fun talking to each other. After that, we began talking every single day from that day and I'm not joking when I say this but I seduced this girl over text. She saw how ''sweet'' and ''nice'' I was and eventually we met up and had some tacos. That was the first time I had ever seen her in real life. Long story short, she's now my official first girlfriend and I'm proud to say that I am now a virgin instead of a kiss-less virgin but that'll change soon too :)

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-Reasons I think you should text a girl that you are interested in other than just setting up a date:

1) She'll be able to learn more about you before you meet up. She will be able to see traits of you that you might not express on the first date. If she doesn't like what she sees on the first date, that could be it for the two of you. Especially for me and a lot of people on this subreddit, we can be shy and anxious around people we like and texting the ones we are interested in is great to combat this anxiety because the interaction is not yet physical.

(2) If you don't text, it will be easier for the person to lose interest. If you make a date a week from now and don't text her at all, chances are she'll lose interest. When you text her, it shows that you're still around and you are still interested. Important: (don't be too clingy and always wait for a reply before sending another text).

3) Girls are always on their phones and chances are if she's fairly good looking, she's already got a ton of men texting her to try and hook up with her. If you text her, stand out and be different. If you aren't on a girls's phone, she will subconsciously think you don't exist especially if she's 18 - 30.

4) You get to feel each other out. Where you are in both of your lives, what the two of you want and most importantly, if she's single. When I first spoke to my girlfriend, I didn't even know if she was single. I had to text her enough so I would get the answers I wanted without being to up front and asking straight up ''are you single?'' like a complete douche. This takes time but it will be worth it if she is single.