A recent post was about trying to attract women by staring at them. Getting their attention from across the room. Approaching boldly. I'm not saying that cant work, but there are many other ways which can also work. For me personally I rarely do such an obvious approach. Just not my style.

I personally find it much more useful to approach unnoticed. To make the approach seem very casual and accidental. If i see a girl I want to approach at the bar, i head over to her without looking at her. I find myself next to her and strike up casual conservation. It doesnt feel, or look like, an approach.

For me low pressure, friendly and casual approaches have always worked the best and felt the most natural and comfy. I know some people like to signal intent early. Signalling intent is incredibly important, i agree. but i like to do it after the approach personally. I find this gives me the best results. Not saying other methods dont also work. But this one works better for me personally.