Need advice after being rejected

saulisdating · 2024-02-07T20:54:00+00:00

Your first and biggest mistake was APOLOGIZING to her for asking her if she was single. Generally, women lose respect for guys who are afraid to "inconvenience them" like that. Because it shows you're insecure, don't trust yourself, are timid and meek.

It's not wrong to find someone attractive. And it's not wrong to let them know you find them attractive. Of course you didn't do that directly but you asked if she was seeing someone - so she assumed you were interested in her.

This leads into the second big mistake - trying to hide this fact when she confronted you about this. When you said you didn't know why you asked, you were lying to her. That's what she meant by you being disrespectful. That's why she got angry at you. Because you were dishonest with her. And being dishonest with women in general is a big no no.

I don't think you have a good chance of salvaging it. I suggest you go talk to other girls and learn how to talk and vibe with them better. Go exercise, do shit you like, get on with your life - and maybe talk to her in a couple of months or so just to see how she's doing. Talking to her now will just seem needy and desperate after you blew it. Unless she initiates the conversation first.

VrilHunter · 2024-02-07T21:03:40+00:00

Never apologize.

Now you know how to not seduce a girl. Making mistakes and being aware of those mistakes is exactly what will make you learn and be better with the next girl. As for this one, forget her.

VrilHunter · 2024-02-07T21:02:28+00:00

Never apologize.

DaygameCode · 2024-02-07T21:37:56+00:00

3 weeks ago i "somewhat" confess my feelings to the girl i love.

Typical beta male behavior. Never do that with women. That’s not how you get girls. You don’t get girls by becoming best friends with a girl, hiding your feelings and then confessing them. Confession is a word you need to erase from your mind. That simply isn’t a move you should make ever. I fucked girls and i have dated girls and i never confessed or do declarations of love or any of that.

i didnt really told her "i love u" but more like "Do you see someone at the moment?". The day after i text her and apologize in case she thought i was rude to ask her about her personal life and that i didnt want her to feel uncomfortable with me around

This is cringe, dude why are you so apologetic? Never be apologetic this is such a bad thing to do with women, apologising because you don’t want to make her feel uncomfortable for asking a personal question. Like no dude, no… never do that again. This just makes you come across as insecure, and approval seeking which is the lamest thing you can do. Never apologize for flirting with her, never apologize for asking her questions, never apologize for making a move. Never.

Me not really wanting to confess over text (and thus being rejected by text) i told her i didnt really know whats got into me (truth is i saw her talk with other guys and she started to show sign of disinterest even avoidance and i got jealous and scared to miss my shot to confess before she found someone) but if she wanted to know more we could talk about it but if not i was going to be more laidback

Dude, i see a real problem here and it’s your personality, or attitude. This whole apologetic, please forgive me, kinda attitude will turn off every girl you speak to including those that might be into you. Yes, even if a girl is into you as soon as you start speaking like this you will turn her off 100%. You sound like you are saying sorry for your freaking existence and super insecure. This is a turn off for all women. all those sounds, all those fears that you might lis stour chance, all those desperate moves, it’s all cringe and will turn off all women.

In what i said is there a major mistake i did? so that if i ever met a girl like her i dont repeat the same mistake.

You weren’t clear from the beggining about hitting on her, instead you became friends first, hiding your intentions for a while until you saw she was distancing herself and try to salvage a situation that was already lost since the beggining even though you did not know that by confessing. The confession wasn’t even a real confession more like a question of whether she was single that you immediately had the need to be apologetic for and that projected all your insecurities, which is a turn off for women.

Women don’t forgive insecurity and uncertainty in a guy. If you have sounds, you keep them to yourself, if you are unsure of where you stand with her, you keep that to yourself. And never say sorry to girls ever unless you insult her or punch her or something extreme like that, never say sorry for telling her you find her attractive, never say sorry or with all due respect, never say no offence after asking her a personal question, and never say that you dont want to make her uncomfortable. Never stalk her.

I know i should move on but honestly i cant so is there a way to salvage this situation even by a little?

No, you did everything wrong, you act like a beta male, she is not gonna be into you, because you did all the mistakes that can be made,women will never be attracted to a guy who acts like that and you cannot pretend to be someone you are not once she seen that because she knows what you secretly hiding underneath even if you pretend to be confident now, she can see through the facade.

If anything should i try to talk to her again just to clear the air? i know girls are not dumb and she will know i just dont want to be friends but in case in the future there is an opportunity would it not be better to not end on a disastrous note?

It doesn’t work like that, you talk about opportunities as if girls just clear their calendar and say oh let me see my list of who was interested and i could give a chance at dating me, oh look here is this guy, let me call him and go out with him. It doesn’t work like that.

You don’t understand women. This is not how you get a girlfriend, this only makes me think you have never had a girlfriend or get a girl to kiss you. It’s all a completely wong mindset.

4. I have A LOT of things i could work on (weight, neediness, creepiness, social skills, abysmal girls skills, cloth, etc...)would a GLOW UP in every/many aspect of my life give me a shot later on?

Not with her because she can see the neediness, and insecurity through the facade, but with other girls sure. Also a glow up like that takes years, maybe even a decade. You should be meeting other girls because she is gonna be dating other guys. You shouldn’t do that with the hopes that she will date you because the most probable thing is she won’t.

i know life aint a movie but there has to be some of u fellas who made a comeback or saw one.

Desperation and outcome dependence is not how you make a comeback. You can only attract women by not needing them. That means that you must be ok with a girl not wanting you, and not desperately want her to like you like your happiness depends on it.

If anything id like to become better with girls because even though this is the first time i fall in love, there has been other girls i have been interested who didnt give me the time of the day i didnt care at the time because i just found them pretty/hot but now that i got reject by someone i really liked well id like to get better with them any advice where to start?

Read all seduction books, you need to learn about dating, pick up, seduction, because you know nothing about women and basically you look like someone who has a blindfold on trying to find his way. Only then you will realise how bad your fuck yo was and how impossible it is to date her without understanding women in the first place.

start with:

Models by Mark Manson
Mystery method
No more mister nice guy.

Sex and kissing should happen before a relationship ship begins. You ask them out on a date not by telling them that you are in love or that you really like like them, but simply that you are interested in taking her out because you like something specific about her, and then in the date you seduce her and kiss her and have sex with her.

You don’t confess, you don’t have declaró a of love and you do t ask her to be your girlfriend you just fuck and then see each other on another date without any expectations of relationships just another date more kissing more sex and so on. Until one day she asks you if you want an actual official relationship because you have been sleeping around d so much already

bennettca3 · 2024-02-07T22:07:21+00:00

I think the question is what did he do right in this encounter nothing. Number one never apologize for liking someone: Number two you act like you cared whether she liked you or not. If you were just very chill about it and be like you’re really fun can I see if we can be more. But whatever happens happens it’s cool. She probably wouldn’t of even talk about you disrespecting her are you following her into class.

When she did say did you follow me into the class you’re like absolutely not. You should’ve responded like I didn’t but I’m so glad you’re in it with me. I can get to know you more if you want to.

Your problem is is you’re treating her as you want to be treated. With logic but woman base their feelings off of emotions: A man wants to hear a woman say absolutely not I didn’t follow you into class I like you. I want to sleep with you. Ambiguity with feelings is a turn off. A woman wants to hear hey this man isin’t pressuring me to like him. He just wants to have a good time and get to know me. He may be or maybe doesn’t want to sleep with me. I really want to know. Ambiguity leads to attraction as long as it’s done correctly. The girl has to think you like them, She wants to hear it, But she has to question it. The insecurity builds attraction.

Dandys3107 · 2024-02-08T09:07:01+00:00

It looks like you have no idea what you are doing. For now, it would be better for you to focus on improving yourself and your game. Society keeps feeding men with delusional image of relations and women's sexuality, it's better for you to reset your mindset and start looking up to guys that figured it out and got their fair share of successes.

epimpstyle · 2024-02-08T11:27:28+00:00

Next time be discreet and find out if she is dating someone without asking. Just ask her for a hangout when you are in town...if she has 3-4 excuses - you know the answer.

Use texting only to schedule a meeting, don't use it to tell her your life or to argue.

You don't look the legal age to drink beer, do you?

Title	Need advice after being rejected
Author	PlayFunOne
Upvotes	4
Comments	18
Date	February 7, 2024 8:38 PM UTC (2 years ago)
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