I need help in clarifying this: There are situations where it's difficult to gauge whether a certain move would be considered "alpha/direct/aggressive" or "needy."

Let's say you are having a great date with a girl.

She has a boyfriend, but she's interested in you. You're out for a few hours, drinking, touching, having fun.

You touch her breasts, she's gets excited, doesn't remove your hand. You kiss her - after a few seconds she hesitates and backs out.

Turns out you made her feel guilty and she wants to go home.

The date ends and you lose communication.

Would the kiss then be considered needy, since you lost the girl, and wanted more from her than she was ready to give?

Or was it the correct, since it was a natural way forward for the situation?