[Advice] 8+ years single, no friends.

pmo_pmNO · 2017-08-11T01:02:30+00:00

Tbh, to me, 'game' seems kinda manipulative.

Game is learning how to have a good conversation/interaction and display your positive qualities in a short period of time. If someone needs weeks/months before they see you're actually awesome, then they're usually not going to stick around long enough.

You've got seconds or minutes, hours at most to convince them you're someone they want to see more of. If you're a really great person, you need to have at least enough game to demonstrate some of that, which gives them a reason to stick around and get to know how awesome you really are.

You're not tricking anyone.
You're just letting them know who you are. How confident you are, how intelligent, how funny, how assertive, how mental strong, how high your self esteem is, and any other positive quality a particular woman might be attracted to.

Letting them know you're interested isn't usually enough. You have to demonstrate qualities they find romantically attractive. Having a lot in common matters if you want to be just friends. You could have nothing in common but get along really well, or everything in common and there's no spark because you don't know how to light a fire, so you've got a female friend instead of a partner.

You're in this situation because 'who you are' isn't coming across fast enough if it ever comes across, so they're writing you off as someone who's not interesting or valuable romantically. Or maybe it's coming across just fine and they don't like who you are. Maybe you're not confident and have low self esteem, or don't know how to make them laugh etc

Maybe you just need to talk with more women and get to know them. That could be the problem. Not every woman is going to like who you are, your style, your humor etc so you can't expect to find a match without getting to know more than a few women.

One thing you can do is work on every other every other area of your life. Being happy and satisfied with what you're doing in life is attractive. Being really fit and strong will improve your confidence, which is attractive. Get amazing sleep, if you're not doing so it will affect everything you do.

How you go from stranger to a relationship is getting to know them, and helping them to know you. Some playful friendly teasing thrown in etc if she gently slaps you and she's smiling that was a big success.

Learn some solid non-gimmicky game (please don't 'peacock' or use canned lines. Just basics like how to build attraction, how to flirt etc) otherwise you could be stuck at getting to know them, without them ever thinking of you in a romantic way.

Get a small cute dog.
People will stop to talk with you if you take him/her for walks. This gives you the opportunity to have a mini-date right then and there, have a short conversation and maybe ask them out for coffee to get to know them better. At the very least, you'll have a new friend (man's best friend).

I recommend a papillon. Having a dog will get you out of the house more often and create more opportunities to talk with people. They're lovely, need daily walking and they're lap dogs, so a papillon will sit on your lap for hours while you read a book.

Yeah, I'm just a papillon salesman. You got me.
That's the only reason I'm here on seddit, selling cute dogs like they're cocaine [opens trenchcoat to reveal rows of little dogs].

How are you showing you're interested in them, how are you demonstrating how awesome you are, and what's your general plan for building attraction? Best of luck, I think you're going to do just fine.

ForeignInUsA · 2017-08-11T05:30:45+00:00

Find wings that do game, they are one of the best people I've ever met, completely replaced my previous social circle. Next if do actual game before you talk about what game is. Your are doing the number one mistake most people do is judge and assume before trying and experiencing. pmo_pmNO said the rest.

JawounGeorge · 2017-08-11T01:36:24+00:00

Find yourself a hobby that you truly truly enjoy. From there create a social circle of people who also enjoy the hobby. Meet their friends & meet their friends and so on and so on. Eventually your buddy will introduce you to some hot friend of his and talk you up about how ambitious you are and good you are at whatever hobby and honestly bro you should be able to take it from there. End Result = Hobby that you enjoy doing, solid group of friends who enjoy the hobby and or are friends with people who enjoy the hobby & a potential plate. Good luck!!

fosterbuster · 2017-08-11T11:39:26+00:00

Have you read Models by Mark Manson? I think you would find it to be very good advice, whilst still resonating with your current values.

ziondelta · 2017-08-10T23:50:57+00:00

so girls probably wont even be friends to guys that dont have a single friend. its a giant red flag that screams ANTISOCIAL. so why dont you work on your social life first and then see if youre good enough to manipulate people into hooking up

Title	[Advice] 8+ years single, no friends.
Author	Dolathrowaway
Upvotes	1
Comments	7
Date	August 10, 2017 11:41 PM UTC (8 years ago)
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