I can approach any girl, make them laugh, connect with them and talk for ages, but I find it hard to show intent and shy out from physically escalating

Notarandomencounter · 2017-09-02T10:19:37+00:00

Try doing stuff a lover or romantic partner would do, gently brush her cheek or hand, rearrange her hair. Smell her (this one can be really good actually). Show her that kino with you is safe, feel good and is fun. Women respond to this.

As an opener i use the ''im trying out a new cologne, what do you think?'' (I always wear a good aftershave or cologne) And offer her to smell my neck, while trying to hold her hand for a few seconds or rest my hand on her thigh/waist depending on our positions.

There is a rule of thumb to when you should attempt to initiate kino and that is to attempt whenever possible ie. Whenever she is close enough. Remeber kino is supposed to make her feel good and safe.

A great discovery i made that relates to this, kino is social-proof. A night out in the city i ran into a four-set. I knew three of the girls already and hugged them in greeting. The last girl eagerly gave me a hug too. She would have been hurt if i didnt greet her with the same kino. I always remember this experience whenever i approach groups. Girls are more social and and thus the girls own sense of need to be apart of the same group, enabled pleasant kino from the beginning.

Whenever i leave, i always go for the hug. Both for social-proof with friends (Shows girls that kino is natural to expect from me) and for the pleasant kino with girls. A second chance to remember my aftershave. If the setting is right for it, i point to my cheeck and suggest a kiss on the cheek. If i already have done this (If this our second meeting for instance) i dont ask for a kiss on the cheek but just initiate it, french greeting style where i do it to both cheeks.

Do you have a strategy on kiss-closing?

2017-09-02T04:24:59+00:00

do the little things, take her hand and bring her in a little closer & don't let go for a while. (When she's hooked of course). Tug on her jacket - these little things will help with your physical escalation.

damfrenchy · 2017-09-02T10:24:17+00:00

You could always SOI right off the bat with the famous "If I wasn't gay, you'd be SO mine" opener or with false disqualifiers such as "I can already see us in tahiti, enjoying our honeymoon and basking in the sun, relaxing as the wind gently brushes our skins... too bad you're too old/young/short/tall we'd never work out".

With regards to kino and physical escalation, do keep in mind humans are, at the core, social animals.

And like most other animals, we like touch, and we like to be petted.

You've said it yourself and it is a truism, it will improve with practice and experience.

They key is that you must be comfortable with touching her, otherwise it'll come off as awkward.

What do you think is your sticking point, that you do not know how/when to escalate, or that you do not dare escalate ?

essexaspie · 2017-09-02T11:14:59+00:00

could you detail a typical approach of yours?

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