How do I remove this negative image that I have of myself?

cyan1618 · 2017-09-09T15:00:25+00:00

You don't have to remove it, you should embrace it, those details are a part of you, keep them hiding is not a good option, there're things that can be change, and things that can not, and you have to accept them, understand your own self is a very importance task.

IWriteForGroupies · 2017-09-09T13:31:31+00:00

I stopped caring about looks a long time ago. If ugly men can get girls than looks aren't everything. The thing that stops people in seduction is not trying. It doesn't matter much about how you look but how much you try.

BestSC86 · 2017-09-09T14:31:45+00:00

It is crazy but your inner image is the hardest thing to change but basically comes down to willpower AND.....

Experimentation......I would suggest in your case to just go and jump in to the situations which you "believe" are out of your reach because "you are ugly". See what happens then calibrate, then do it again...it really is the only way.

Just be aware that you don't put too much pressure on the first few times....you are not going to go from bad self image to fucking chad taking a quick smile from a girl to fucking her in a instadate 15mins later.....consider small victories like finding out that they don't go running away screaming when you talk to them, to noticing that they actually are friendly, to that some girls actually are happy to talked to them, to some really like you, on and on , till you understand that some really do want your ass naked.

Because of a shit attitude big brother who like to abuse people to make himself feel better, been thru similar many moons ago<he would constantly tell me about how horrid I looked and make fun of me>....it didn't really bother me that much since I was so busy with sports\etc, just accepted it as it was the way it was.....I thought the same thing coming out of HS, going to uni.....I get away to college and new friends I meet in college are like "WTF are you talking about" when I would intimate that girls were out of my reach because of my looks. I honestly didn't have any idea. And I mean really clueless like I had some girls run out of bars to give me their number because I was leaving, dance team girls yelling to get my attention at football games and cheerleaders who got my roommate's GF to set up blind dates because we met briefly during games.....but it still didn't register for the longest time that this wasn't normal behavior and perhaps I might actually be attractive....like WTF, right? My inner image was still the same as my asinine brother....it simply takes a prolong period of constant reinforcement gotten only by seeing what the hell happens when you jump in to things you think are outside your reach...

Get to it....

ImJustSo · 2017-09-09T15:19:28+00:00

You paid attention to negative feedback about yourself being ugly? Or you just felt ugly back then?

Are you paying attention to the positive feedback about yourself now being attractive? And you still feel ugly?

Attraction to yourself isn't your goal, acceptance of yourself should be your goal. It doesn't matter what you look like, just that you make an effort to be the most presentable you. After that, it's up to each new person you meet to decide whether they're attracted or not. It's not up to you what they're thinking and feeling about you past what effort you put in. If you receive a positive signal from someone, start a catalog in your head about it. What you think about yourself shouldn't affect how you interact with others, you're being unfair to others and yourself. You're not giving a shit about someone's feelings, simply because you don't agree with them. Acknowledge the way others think, even if you disagree.

I think I'm a caveman, with a big stupid head and boogly eyes, with fat cheeks.

Women though, they throw themselves at me depending on the situation. I get complimented by men and women everyday on my appearance. I think it's amusing that my looks have such an effect on people when I personally think I look retarded. But! I acknowledge that their opinion matters more and that's just how it is.

Jarn_Tybalt · 2017-09-10T17:11:56+00:00

You will probalby never really get over it if you used to be unattractive.

I was always unattractive and very skinny. I've been working out, changed my look, definitely look better now, even tho I sill wouldn't say I'm attractive. I am charming tho.

Had a date 2 nights ago, end up at her place. We had some wine, she gets a little tipsy. We are making out hot and heavy. She asks me to stand up and take off my shirt because she wants to see my "amazing body" (her words).

I'm self-conscious as fuck, but at a moment like that, it's NOT a good time to be a pussy. I took my shirt off AND said "fuck that noise, you need to see all of it," and took my pants off too! I was tipsy, I knew where this was going, and I have a fairly big dick, so I definitely wanted her to see what I was packing.

She loved my body, ran her hands over my body and just kept saying "OMG, what do you do to look so good? You're body is amazing!"

What I was thinking the whole time? I was thinking, "fuck, I hope the lighting is good in here. Can't show her a side view. Hope she doesn't notice my skinny legs."

Then she gave me a blow job, grabbed my dick, and walked me to the bedroom.

After sex, I kept thinking, "I need to work out my arms more. I gotta bulk this winter. I need to be bigger."

She was literally standing over me, running her hands over my body and telling me how amazing my body was, and I was mentally disagreeing with her. But verbally i was like, "Aww, thanks. Let's see your bod." Her body was amazing. She was def out of my league! haha

My point is that you never get over feeling ugly if you were really ugly before. Everyone has their bad feeling days, but for us truly unattractive people, it stays with us. Forever. Don't fight it, just push through it.

DavidGolani11 · 2017-09-09T20:38:18+00:00

http://imgur.com/a/8CfP0

GET_IN_THE_VAN · 2017-09-09T22:44:19+00:00

I think this video might help you. Let me know if it does https://www.youtube.com/edit?o=U&video_id=fymPAgK0MDs

Title	How do I remove this negative image that I have of myself?
Author	BornaRamblingMan
Upvotes	21
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Date	September 9, 2017 1:27 PM UTC (8 years ago)
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