I have been alive for 21 years and it seems everyone I know expect me seems to have (or had) a boyfriend or girlfriend, as they often come up in conversations and in pictures. I talk to people everyday and am on clubs and teams. What am I not doing right (or not doing at all)?

Lambdal7 · 2017-11-02T16:33:49+00:00

Do you ask 3 girls to hang out per week and flirt with them to see if they're interested? When you're with a girl then, do you build rapport and escalate Kino?

If no, then you need to do that.

ImJustSo · 2017-11-02T17:53:29+00:00

What are you doing differently? Not asking girls out, perhaps? Not kissing them after you've taken them out?

Or do you already do those things?

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KrullTheWarriorKing · 2017-11-02T22:23:04+00:00

You want it too bad? Maybe you're expecting it to happen? You've gotta focus on the fun you're having.

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recyclablebanthas · 2017-11-03T15:24:13+00:00

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I have been alive for 21 years

You're young. Take a deep breath and chill out. A lot of guys your age haven't even lost their virginity yet.

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and it seems everyone I know expect me seems to have (or had) a boyfriend or girlfriend, as they often come up in conversations and in pictures.

This is a nothing issue.

YOU think people expect you to have had a GF (or BF?), just because they talk about their BFs or share pics of their significant others? Honestly, get over yourself.

People share or talk about their BFs and GFs because that's what people DO. Not because you're weird or whatever the fearful voice in your head is trying to convince you.

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I talk to people everyday and am on clubs and teams. What am I not doing right (or not doing at all)?

You've told us absolutely nothing about what you're actually doing when you try to socialize with whoever it is you want to date. You were so astonishingly vague that it's even unclear whether you're straight or not.

I personally don't care which it is. We can help either way. But off-hand, I'd have to say, if you're being this unclear and wishy-washy in real life, no one is going to know when you're interested in them. Start off by answering some basic questions:

How do you meet women?
How do you open them? How do you come up with your opener?
What do you talk about with them? How do you come up with material?
How far have you gotten with women before?
How many women are you seeing now?
What do you actually want? Something casual or something serious?

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