is being with beautiful women just a privilege for genetically gifted people?

CaffeineAndCalculus · 2017-11-14T11:35:36+00:00

Have you read the whole sidebar? Lot of stuff in there about self improvement and mindset.

phreX1 · 2017-11-14T13:37:27+00:00

Ok my friend, i see what is your problem and here are your 2 options:

You can complain about how your good looking friends fuck all those beatiful girls and complain about how ugly guys never get a girl. You can sit there in front of the PC argue with us guys about that life is unfair and painfull (which we already know, because guess what we ourself need help with women too or else we wouldn't be here in this subreddit). You can waste time and energy with toxic thinking like this...

OR

You go fucking out of your house/apartment and start approaching people anyways... You can make these peoples day. Be funny, be high value. Show these people that your life is awesome and that you want them to join your awesome journey of improving. DUDE do you really think you are the only one with a shitty life? NO everyone of us is going to work/school every day fucking bored, starring into our smartphones because our life is to fucking boring. Guess what you approach one of these people give a honest compliment, crack a joke and bam all of sudden you have a good convo. They like you because you made them smile. These are just regular people. Now imagine a you do this with a hot girl. Dude this can lead to so much if you just make it happen. These people will see your face and your bald head and be like "yeah maybe he isn't the that handsome and good looking, but whatever he is funny, he is motivated, he is so positive, i like him, he makes things happen and i wanna be in his friendcircle". Girls will think this too, they don't even care what you look like. They are like "This guy is funny, adeventurous and a real alpha male. He doesn't take shit from anyone, he knows his worth and his path. This guy could be the father of my kids (Obviously more on a subconscious level)". You have to realize that it's not all about looks man. Does your good looking friend get girls without doing that much? Yeah proably. Does it have anything todo with your game and your results? No, because you make the things happen and if a hot girl rejects you, who cares, there a million other hot girls out there.

What i also noticed in your post is that you don't talk about how you approached a hot girl or anything like that. Did you ever approach any girl in your life? If not then dude get out and do it. Because you are not entitled to women, you don't get sex just by sitting in front of you PC or something like that. You have to make it happen. It's your life. You have to make it worth living, not your mum, not the hot girls and not your good looking friends. If your life is not going the way you like it, never blame others, its your responsibilty.

Holy shit I got triggered hahah. heres a short tl;dr

You can either choose to be a toxic, butthurt, beta male who blames other for his shitty life or you can improve to be an awesome alpha male who gives value and tries to make every day a good day.

recyclablebanthas · 2017-11-14T13:54:45+00:00

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I'm sick of being fed bullshit about women not caring about a mans looks when choosing a partner for sex.

You're choosing to distort this; the advice is not that women don't care at all about looks. Everyone has preferences.

Here's the trick though, A person's outward appearance does not predict what sort of preferences they might have. All sorts of personal history and events can affect a person's emotions and their preferences, also.

So while people have preferences when it comes to looks, you have no clue who would be into you based on what they look like. You're not psychic.

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People tell me this but what I observe is different.

Ah, but here the thing. We all have negative self-talk and a choice as to whether we listen to it and allow it to change our brain chemistry.

What we observe is different from the interpretations we assign to the things we observe. This is evident when you look at children who fall down while learning to walk. They often look up at the adults in the room when they fall down, for cues as to what value to assign to them falling. Parents who look scared or worried, will lead to the kid crying. Parents who are smiling, encouraging, or laughing, will lead to a kid carrying on like nothing happened.

Point is, you have been choosing the negative self-talk for a long time, apparently. Probably started in childhood. Your parents almost certainly did you a massive disservice as they raised you, if you're beating yourself up this badly.

And here's the kicker: You have no idea what someone's preferences are until you interact with them. But while you can't change someone who'd be a "no" into a "yes," you can certainly persuade someone who would have been a "yes," into a "no." So you have been, and continue to fuck yourself out of chances with women.

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....she's really into the guys friend because I guess to her he's more aestetically pleasing and I feel like this is the mindset of most women.

Look at this. It's not you. It's the asshole negative self-talk voice in your head and it can fuck off.

And look what bullshit it's feeding you. The negative asshole "guesses," and then in all its infinite wisdom, further pronounces, since it's a fucking mindreader, that its "guess" somehow translates into some mega-epiphany insight into the mindset of "most women."

Wow. Charles Xavier has plugged into Cerebro and hacked into most of womanhood. Everybody, we can all go home because it's been figured out.

Look, OP, you are fighting a war in your own mind and right now you are giving up without trying. It's YOUR mind. Fight for it.

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I'm sick of trying to eat right, sick of working out and I'm sick of myself.

I was much like you. I even reached the point that my negative self-talk had me physically paralyzed in social situations. Endured a daily onslaught of bullshit in my own head telling me I was a worthless piece of shit that no one except other losers would want to be around.

Then one day I was talking to myself, in my head, and realized that there was a difference between the principal "me" and the negative self-talk. And I got angry. I channeled all the energy I could arguing with it, because I was just fucking tired of being sad all the time.

These negative thoughts can be fought and your brain re-wired. Here are two takes on fighting them: 1 2 And also, please seek therapy. One on on with a therapist or group therapy.

Memphis_Blues_Again · 2017-11-14T10:15:23+00:00

Why don't you date ugly people then? If you're so bad, then you won't have a problem with that, right?

But you probably want what's hot and sexy right? Well, I'll say you do. Guess what - most of the people want the same.

You don't even realize how much lucky you are to be an ugly man, IF you are really ugly (that's not up to me to say). Imagine if you were an ugly woman. I bet men have it easier here. Women see past looks far better than we do - I've seen more shallow men that judge exclusively on looks. And most of us will get old and wrinkled someday, so might as well find someone that isn't just a pretty sidekick.

essexaspie · 2017-11-14T11:51:18+00:00

Anyone who tells you that looks don't matter is probably just good looking themselves!

To be honest, even some of the RSD guys have kind of admitted this in more recent times. Julien admitted he'd become super handsome if he had a magic spell. Tyler admitted how good looks will make things easier etc/ . In the old days, they were 100% ''looks don't matter at all!!', but I feel as though they've kind of woken up at least a little bit in more recent times

In terms of cold approach, looks are VERY important in my eyes. ON a night out, hot girls won't let me get past my opening 'hi!' a lot of the time, lol. (backturn/ignore/one-word answers at best which put an end to the convo very fast). A tall, handsome guy with a lantern jaw and cheekbones will be well recieved with the exact same approach. It's just life i'm' afraid.

That said, it's not uncommon for an ugly guy to be dating a hot girl to be honest (lets forget about being super rich for the time being)

It basically always happens through social circle game, though. Playing 'the long game'. Never cold approach

I know first hand that as an ugly guy, cold approach can be rough!

I haven't given up, though! :)

I just fully accept that i've got about a 0.25% chance of pulling when I open a hot girl in a bar. Nothing to lose, really. A bit of a kick in the confidence, but screw it. After a while I guess you kind of get numb too it! lol

Title	is being with beautiful women just a privilege for genetically gifted people?
Author	CroolNature
Upvotes	1
Comments	5
Date	November 14, 2017 8:05 AM UTC (8 years ago)
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