Really want a girlfriend and to experience sex but I do nothing to get it, why is this?

2017-11-18T01:12:48+00:00

If you have normal social interactions and get out there. I can guarantee there is a girl there who likes you and might even want to fuck you. The biggest change I have made is to see them. Before I was oblivious.

You need to chill out and just enjoy them. You are too worried about an outcome and that is preventing you from getting that outcome.

Lil_Kilo · 2017-11-18T01:13:42+00:00

Stop jerking off, and go out. Thats it. Nothing will happen when you're at home. Thats whats wrong with you, you're not putting in the work.

Turlast · 2017-11-18T00:31:50+00:00

Because you're simply not willing to do what it takes to get it. You may have a desire to experience these things, but desire alone isn't enough. Action is the main requirement.

Aeon199 · 2017-11-18T01:12:58+00:00

You are scared of the work that needs to be put in, and you are avoiding it. Apathy is a very real form of avoidance. By not caring, you feel safe, and you can't 'fail'.

Stop jerking off for 3 months and by the end your dick will lead you to where it wants to go.

Approach hot girls more, get a friend to force you to do it if you have to, as this is only step 1 out of 10, and it sucks that so many of us get stuck here for months or years when really even once we are approaching the success rate might still be very low.

chegrad88 · 2017-11-18T00:44:06+00:00

I just posted my first field report if you will. I learned about pickup 3 months ago and made my first approach(complete stranger) this Thursday. It feels alien because you are not used to it.

If you want a girlfriend just to lose your virginity --- you shouldnt get a girlfriend. You should get a fuckbuddy or a hookup. My advice to you would be to just keep going out there and meeting new people. Not just approaching women - approach men (for example if you see a guy who supports the same football team as you go up to him and small talk about the club) go talk to your professors, store workers, everyone. Talking to people is easy, getting friend or a girlfriend is hard, but what talking to EVERYONE will do is make it easy for you and natural to talk to strangers (and hot girls).

In terms of having a girl fall for you - well that I dont really know exactly but... A girl loves a man that she can bond with. That she can relate with, feel secure with and be able to share herself with (I mean this both spiritually and physically). For this you need to open up with girls you meat. Dont just small talk throughout the whole conversation, try to establish an emotional connection between you two. There are many PUA and non PUA articles and videos on how to do this.

SquirtGunKelly1 · 2017-11-18T01:44:14+00:00

I️ would say a comfortable way to ease yourself into the environment is going out with a group of friends or a wingman. If you are going out with friends for the sole purpose of having fun and not gaming from the start, you will get more comfortable in social situations as a whole. Along with this having people around you in specific a wingman can motivate you to put in the work either through the drive of competition or simply him motivating you to push forward. When it’s all said and done Rome wasn’t built in a day, it takes little 1% gains every day to achieve the goals you want. In the short term think simply of going out to have fun and specific little things you want to work on each night and forget about the end goal. These small gains will build up and before you know it you will feel more comfortable in social situations.

Title	Really want a girlfriend and to experience sex but I do nothing to get it, why is this?
Author	funthrowaway2121
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Comments	18
Date	November 18, 2017 12:13 AM UTC (8 years ago)
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